Okay, I dont know what my deal is but I have this one chick that is just driving me nuts. We had what we had and it was good for a spell...or at least I thought so at the time.

Now its over and thats great b/c it was destroying me. However, I cant get the balls to face her. And Im constantly avoiding situations where she might be present. I dont know what to do.

I am usually very good at moving in the present, not looking forward or backward. However, I cant help but look back at this and see how I was taken advantage of, played, manipulated, and just destroyed. I feel really banged up by this one and for some reason it just infuriates me and makes me feel like a chump.

I know this is just perpetuating the situation but I havent been able to get past it. I need to move forward and I need to stop letting this situation keep me from doing what I want.

Please help!!

I think the best cure for this, would be a new girl. Not only does it prove that you have gotten over the old one, are on the right path to, you also will enjoy life again (im guessing life hasnt been that great since you worked out what she was doing to you).

hope this helped.

Thanks for the response but actually, I have already moved on and have had many girls since her. I actually have some great women that I spend time with fairly often right now.

So I guess all in all, my inner game hasnt been shaken too much. However, just the mere thought of bumping into her is enough to knock me down. I know my game would crumble if I saw her. And any news about her via mutual friends or otherwise brings it all back up to the surface and makes me angry and sick to my stomach.

I just want to be able to go where I want to go, do what I want to do, and not think about her anymore.

I know the only magic pill is time, but any advice you can give on how to keep a strong frame is appreciated.

Should I just continue to avoid her for now? Should I go out of my way to bump into her and get it over with? What?