A few weeks ago I went out in Bank with Drax. It’s a Thursday night and the place we’ve just walked into is a bit dead, looks like it’s winding down for the evening. Drax goes to the bar to get a drink while I contemplate going somewhere else. I spot an attractive woman waiting at the bar. She’s probably an 8, wearing tight black skirt, high heels and a dark green shirt. I have a look around and decide we should try somewhere else but before we do I’m going to mack on the girl at the bar. I go up to Drax and suggest we go somewhere else. He hadn’t ordered his drink yet so he agreed. I than scoot up to the girl at the bar:

Me: Excuse me
German: Yes
Me: [big cocky smile on face] would you like to dance?
German: Ooooo….. I’ve been waiting ages at the bar and I don’t want to lose my place
Me: Awww…. OK. Hey, where are you from?
German: Guess
Me: Hmmmmmmmm…. I’m normally good with accents but I can’t place yours.
German: [says something unimportant I can’t remember]
Me: Is it in central Europe?
German: Yes
Me: Ah! Deutschland!
German: Yes [big smile] and you?
Me: It’s better I don’t tell you where I’m from
German: Go on
Me: Well, I’m half Italian
German: Noooo….. that’s the worst possible place you could be from
Me: You’re saying that because of the last World Cup right?
German: Yeah [laughing]
Me: Aw, well you won our World Cup in 1990, so it was only fair we should win yours

(the 1990 Football World Cup held in Italy was won by Germany; the 2006 Football World Cup held in Germany was won by Italy)

German: It’s OK, you were the better team
Me: Ah, you see, this is the thing, you can admit that, most people wouldn’t admit that the other team was better if their team loses
German: It’s true
Me: But you guys have done very well, you have three World Cups and three European Championships
German: [shrugs to denote “yeah I suppose so”]
Me: OK, I can see you’re waiting for you drink, I’m gonna leave you in peace but before I do I want to ask you something
German: [smiling expectantly]
Me: You should let me take you out some time.
German: [looking like she likes the sound of it, and is about to say something, but I don’t let her, I just continue to speak]
Me: If I don’t ask you this I know I’ll regret it tomorrow. I know you’re a very attractive woman and you must get guys bugging you all the time wanting to take you out
German: [a smile passes over her face]
Me: Now, we don’t know each other we’ve just me. I could be a really nice guy or I could be a complete asshole but there’s only one way to find out. I’m a really nice guy, I won’t harass you. If you’d prefer me to just shut up and leave you in peace so you can enjoy the rest of your evening in peace I will. But you should let me take you out, you have nothing to lose.
German: OK, why not!

She than gives me her number. Spits out something about her name, I tell her mine, say goodbye and than exit the place.

This was all over very quickly, less than 3 minutes. I call this “Blitzkrieg Approach”. You just hit the victim, hard and fast, very quick and very direct, with a bunch of arguments why they should say yes, preempting any reasons they could have for saying no and addressing these. Tell her you’re a nice guy… drop in something about being a nice guy and not wanting to harass her so you’ll leave her in peace if she wants you to (several woman have fed back that this made them think “hey, this guy is considerate, not like the rest”). Say something about the fact you’ve only spoken to them for two minutes but you know if you don’t ask them this you will regret it later.

You would be amazed how often the above has worked

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nice...

I was Diego´s wing this night and witnessed said events. I too am a fan of the blitz approach - in fact many a time i have spent too long trying to chat up girls that the situation fizzes to an end. Get in their quick, you don´t want some other dude sticking his toungue down the throat of a girl you have been warming up for 30mins. By the way one minor inaccurate comment you Diego made was saying the girl was an 8 - he´s just being modest, she was definately a 9

thats a nice one

Ill try it in the future

I have used a similar approach without thinking of it before and it worked like a charm. At the time I dont know that I knew what I was doing other than just going for it. I like how you detailed your approach...that helps to duplicate. I will be in a spot where it will come in handy tomorrow night, I will let you know how it goes.

Thanks!

“Blitzkrieg Approach”

Nice! No time for target to find a bunker!! Good one, mate.

This is pretty much my day game.

I was thinking about this approach more.

This would be a good opportunity to incorporate some subtle NLP.

One thing taught in NLP is that the mind cannot process a negative thought. Just by saying 'You really shouldnt be...' you are forcing someone's mind to think about that thought.

In this approach you could use the whole 'You really shouldnt be considering going out with someone you just met, but still I had to come talk to you b/c I would regret it if I didnt.'

Guys – thanks to all of you for your feedback.

Trevino – did you get to try any of this out on the night you mentioned? If so I’d be interested to hear what happened. Also that bit about NLP is fantastic! I’m going to try and incorporate that. I think that with this technique there is a lot of scope for fitting in short, punchy, NLP based phrases to help induce the desired response.

I’m looking to expand this…. Out of the clubs and bars…. Into the street, train stations, bus stops etc… this is going to be interesting….

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