1st post here, great site

Just wanted to share my encounter earlier tonight...

Was at a stripclub with a friend, just killing off a Friday night (didnt feel like going to the clubs). Its a local stripclub, with some pretty decent girls....
While there, we happen to get a beautiful waitress..... shes about my age (young 20s), long black hair, beautiful face... an easy 9/10.

We order some drinks... then order more... and then more. The entire night, shes smiling at me slyly (n a way thats not really a "thank you for the tip" smile). Even my friend mentions that hes caught her starring at me a couple times.

Anyway, I consider myself a decently good lookin' guy... Im no Brad Pitt, but I do alright. Well dressed, groomed, etc etc...

So, come near the end of the night... my friend steps outside to make a phonecall and the waitress is just pacing back and forth in front of me (shes giving the other guys their drinks and whatnot).... Whole time she smiling at me.

Come the end of the night... Im about to leave and she comes over to me. I say "so what happened to that drink you owed me?" - she had asked earlier if I wanted a shot of "liquid cocaine"... I declined at the time and said maybe later. She responds with "oh, wana have it now??? " and I said "only if you have a shot with me".... she said shes not allowed to drink on the job, which is believable.... so I replied with "oh, thats too bad that they dont let you drink in here..... we should grab a drink outside here some time then".... Her response? Sorry, I have a boyfriend....

blah, instant buzz killer. Does she have one? Possibly..... Guess I'll never know... could be an excuse.

Part that kills me is that Im not usually the type that approaches women... I hate getting these kinda replies. Im more of the type of guy that somehow gets certain girls to "open" on me. Again, no Brad Pitt... but thats just how I always did it. Kinda bummed out being told that shes got a boyfriend tho =/


ah well, what can you do.

Hey, be glad that she did tell you this. I had a similar experince except she never told me she had a bf, and I only found out later on. Which left me almost heartbroken, as I had worked for a long time building a strong impression on her - so in a way you were lucky. Girls with bf will display interest in you, as a potential partner later on - if they were to, say break up with the current. Therefore its not worthwhile to pursue such girls, instead they can be used as pivots for other chicks - which also leaves the chance of you two getting together later on. You should have responded by saying - " I never said I was going to take you - I was just asking you if you would like to". So forget about this and move on - plenty more fish in the see, plenty more roses in the garden.