| You are sitting next to your computer shouting angrily. I just can't do it! No matter what I do I just can't seem to make any progress with women! Any time I try I just back away the anxiety is just too great... You swipe your arm at the table sending a glass globe shattering on the floor dripping out water all over your new carpet. Everyone in the community seems to say if you try hard enough you will get good some day. That's cool and all, but honestly what the hell does that mean? I think almost all of us have problems taking action every now and then, but today I'm going to start to show you how to set effective goals that will make taking the action much easier. I'm going to base my knowledge of goal setting not mostly on my own, but on the thousands of scientific studies performed on it. The main points to goal setting are setting goals that are specific, short term, and challenging.(Bandura 1997; schunk & zimmerman, 2006)
A fuzzy nonspecific goal is “I want lots of women.” A more concrete goal would be something like “I want 1 new woman by the end of this week”
It is ok to set long term goals, but it works best if you set short term goals in order to attain them, so instead of focusing on all of your night game focus on a specific skill for a few days, and then pick a new specific skill after that. Baby steps will add up. You may say I hear that all the time, duh?! The question I ask you though is have you actually done it?
Another good strategy is to make sure your goals are challenging (Anderman & Wolters, 2006) You will be much more likely to do these. Easy goals are boring. Challenging ones keep you aware of what's going on. It's like working a job in a factory doing the same repetitive task over and over versus doing something you actually love. Learn to love women and the process of meeting them and this journey will be much easier and fun. One thing to avoid is setting impossible goals though this will only lower you confidence and make you feel like a failure over and over again.
I final tip is that your goals are positive. Pick something you want to accomplish not something you want to avoid. Researchers have found that the pursuit of avoidant goals is associated with bad performance and stress. (Elliot & Sheldon, 1999).
On motivation, I know sometimes I sit there thinking hey I should do this, or I should do that. The fact is though that we only do what we want to do. Do you actually want to get women, or are you do you want to sit in front of the computer and play wow all day? Until you decide that you actually want this, that it's something you have wanted all your life and you are willing to put forth the effort to attain it you will not succeed. I mean maybe it's just me, but I really want the feeling a woman can give me. The ways she can point out things I never knew about myself, help me grow as a man, and the blowjobs. Seriously who doesn't want blowjobs? Are you gay? I know it sounds painful to approach a woman, but like I said start small. Baby steps is the way to go, and believe me that bit of pain at first is very much worth how great you will feel later for at least having tried. If you fail a couple times that's fine. Kids that are learning to walk fall a lot, but obviously we get it at some point or there'd be a shitload of parapelegics. Learning this is the same way.
Good luck,
Zine
Bandura, A. (1997). Self-efficacy. New York: Freeman.
Schunk, D. H., & Zimmerman, B. J. (2006). Competence and control beliefs: Distinguishing the means and the end.
Anderman, E. M., & Wolters, C. A. (2006). Goals, values, and affect: Influences on student motivation
Elliot, A. J., & Sheldon, K. M. (1999) Avoidance personal goals and the personality-illness relationship. _________________ You have balls yes, but how often do you actually use them?
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