Well I've been talking to this girl for a while now. Just recently we got in an argument and she told me to never to talk to her again. But then 2 weeks later she came up to me wanting to put it to rest. So she said we are now starting on a new slate. At first things were not the way they used to be at all,(Like no late night conversations and stuff) But one day I called, she said she would call back. So she calls me late that night, and I had her laughing like crazy, I was starting to get some IOI's again. So I ask her out again. (We've only gone out like 2 or 3 times before the fight even though we used to talk on the phone at night like all the time). So we actually go out but then she had to go home early, but she says we'll go out the next day. But then all this week she's had some excuse for not being able to go out with me like I got real sick, I'm babysitting. Or the day that we plan to do something she take's all day to text back. But we've talked a few days ago for along time with some pretty deep conversations. But for the last days she acts like she don't want to talk as much.

I think some of my problems are that I supplicate too much, and that it's hard now for me too show another side of me other than my funny side. I know if I wanna take this too another level, we got to go out on some dates. I also know that this time I got some serious competition, like now I hear that she's talking with some 21 year old guy (I'm about to be 19) and I think thats the guy that she has been talking too instead of me sometimes.

I Need Some Advice Big Time. How can I take this relationship to another level and eliminate the competition.

THANKS

My two cents:

Ignore her. If she texts you, don't text back (or text back late at night going "Oh, didn't see this before now" (DON'T answer her text!!)). If you are available and, as you say, supplicating she wont be interested. Ignore her, and she will be all like "Hey wait, what? How come he's stopped talking to me? What did I do wrong? Am I not attractive anymore? Has he found someone else? I've got to get him back!"

Ignore her, leave her be for a week or two, then suddenly out of the blue send her a (nice) text message. Then ignore her again. Cat-string theory in the works

That said, if I was you, I'd forget about her and move on. Stop obsessing over one girl, there are plenty more fish in the sea.

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I think it is one of two things (or a combo of them):

1. She is into this older guy and is stringing you along as a backup if things with this other guy don't turn out.
2. She is playing you. She is developing great rapport with you and showing interest and then pulling away to test you and to get you invested. I'm not sure what the argument was about but her actions show that she wants to show you who is boss, and seems like she is still delivering some payback from the previous argument.

There is always a chance that she is busy, or that she was sick. I can't say that is not ever true. But trust your gut. And if this becomes a pattern, realize that you are being played.

Update:

Well I stopped texting her for awhile but today was my birthday so I got a Happy Birthday text message! (Today's Sunday and she goes to my church) So then at first when I actually see her she doesn't say much. But after church she tries to talk to me and things go well. So she came over for the little celebration. When she was over things continued to go really well (little bit of kino, chemistry was on point). Some of the kino was even started by her. It was probably the most I've ever kino escalated with her. But then she left because me and my sister kind of got into an argument but she said everything was still on the same terms. Should I text her or call her. Or just wait a while.

I think that if things are going well you should ride that wave and really escalate. Be bold, be forward, take the lead.

Oh and happy birthday dude

Thanks Bonita, but now it seems like the wave has ran its course. Nothing Bad happened but I think I'm gonna try a little of that cat string theory. Back up for a few days then send her text message. Then stop again and see how that works.

Thanks Big Time!