I met a girl who had been raped when she was younger. Probably because of this she is really shy and has low self esteem. She has difficulty standing up for herself and saying no to people. She just kinda hopes guys she doesn't like just go away. Anyway we went on a 1st date. She didn't wanna be around people so she just wanted to go for a walk. We had good conversation and I entertained her pretty well with card tricks. We made out in the car (I initiated). I asked her more than once if she was cold or nervous because it really looked like she was. When I got home she texted me. "Sorry for being so shy" or whatever. I said it's ok. I dont know if she wants to see me again. She replies to my texts and i asked her to call me and she did but I don't think she wants to meet up again even though she says she does . (Difficulty standing up for herself or saying no).

I wanna bang this girl. Now before you guys flame me I actually would date her and I don't treat girls bad... but I still wanna bang her, she's got an awesome body. She's nice. How do I play this? I don't wanna keep trying to set up another date because I feel like it's losing me points.

well, i don't know her story but it might take a whiiiiile before you bang her, mate! keep stimulating her trust, make sure she doesnt smell that you really want to get into her pants. i would start by trying to make her more confident... being very subtle doing this. step by step... if she really has issues, i don't know if you'll have fun banging her the first time... but it's a challenge, why not. if she just can't say no, you'll get headaches figuring out what she really wants and doesnt want. i think you're into a lot of confort zone and work! but well, i might be wrong. goodluck!

No one's going to flame you congrats on taking the lead and escalating with the girl

I've had dealings with your same type of girl so from experience
This situation with this girl what happened to her is very unfortunate, but also out of your control. You can't focus on that. Women in situations like that don't like men showing signs of feeling bad for them or being angry at the situation(ei. the attacker dont say things like I wish i could kill that guy) , that's the WORST thing you can do.

Right now your focusing on her past, STOP IT!!
The best thing you can do is keep as you are now if you want to kiss her kiss her, if you want to escalate further do it.

I say go out with her again she obviously likes you

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That's a little bit of her back story. Right now I dont know if i'm even gonna get a second date. Right now we just txt and it's only been me texting and her replying most of the time. we've spoken on the phone a couple times since then and since we dont really know each other or haven't hung out aside from that time i dont have that much to say. i know it's up to me to turn this around but i dont really know what to do. txting her too much will make me look needy so i dont know what to do right now.

I know a couple of girls who have told me they have been raped. I slept with both before they told me. This is a major trust issue thing. How did you find out she was raped? All you can do is appreciate the situation and be the guy she wants. Both my girls, after they told me never wanted to talk about it again, they just wanted to let me know where they were coming from. I'm sure they think about it A LOT, you never wanna be the one to bring it up.

I knew the guy who raped one of my friends and I was going to burn down his house, dead serious. She wanted to move on tho as if it had never happened and told me no like 20 times. Didnt even want me to confront him about it. Looking back, I should have busted out his teeth at least.

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she was talking about how she's been treated bad in the past and mentioned that.

OK I blew it. I texted her like. Hey I'm just gonna leave you alone. It's pretty clear you are just trying to be polite but you dont wanna hang out no more. Then later i texted again like, do you wanna still talk or just not looking for somethign serious? she said she was at work (which is true) then she didn't reply and i'm not gonna contact her any more.

Its ok , it was an experience.

Dont put much into it , but keep her on your contacts ... i.e. call her in a week and a half or after sometime and be casually friendly and light.

Dont ask her to go out yet , unless you feel she is radiating positive energy towards you. Regarding her past everybody has his own sh!t thats the way you should frame it inside your head , and whatever happened happened you cannot change it all you can do it heal up and move forward.

In case of a D2 try to get her somewhere fun and with people around preferably kids women just feel better/ carnivals /circus / local amusement park just go out have fun and show yourself and her a good time.

AVK

Just so everyone knows girls LIE, when i lost my virginitiy it was at a house party, right after wee fucked she hooked up with 2 of my friends, literally 5 minutes after we fucked, when she came down the stairs a few of the girls started calling her a slut and making fun of her, soo the next day she told every1 she knew at my school she was raped, it was complete bs she was embarrassed and try to save face, everything she did that ngiht was consequential but she regretted it soo ,,
eventually she apologized, i never spoke to her again once the ordeal was over

EDIT: this is probably the most extreme case of buyers remorse,

This is some really serious shit. Its very unfortunate that a girl has to go through all this. I don't agree with any of the advises given to you thus far. The girl has to deal with a lot of stuff here.

You should ask someone like Chief in this forum. Some of their advises are good and they have I guess studied this subject. But be very careful of how you treat this girl because once you break off with her she might start feeling "used", which would be terrible.