Ok guys, here's a new scenario.

HBFlirt is a (obviously) a flirt. We both kino and we give each other IOIs but when it comes down to want to get down and dirty she's really hesitant. She's been like this even before I diagnosed myself as an AFC. She said she really likes me blah blah.

So we're going to a concert tomorrow, and no I didn't buy her the tickets. Now should I just flat out tell her tomorrow I don't want to go to these concert unless I get something out of it? I feel like I'm wasting my saturday if I go with her like an AFC and not get any. All this flirting has been goin on too long and I'm getting sick of it.

I realized I've been losing a lot of "girl friends" as I've been going through this transformation.

I've been with girls who "really like me" too. It's a bullshit situation, there's no other way to put it.

There's still some "hard to get" thing going on there that makes you hope, but right now, she is still in control. And her control over you is making you lose respect from your other girl friends too.

Don't do any "kiss me now or else" routines. That is blabant AFC shit, it's begging. Won't work.

Instead, just go right ahead and cut the crap. If you want to be a bit more dramatic about it, go to the concert, let her flirt you for a bit, smile in a patronizing way and leave. Really leave her alone there.

DUMP HER. Block her flirts, ignore her more. Reject her kino, etc.

Also, she might come after you, but the moment you give in, she'll feel in control again. Remember for how long she's been playing with you.

Move on and don't blame yourself for her lack of vision, man.

Ok so she was telling me how she's single now and blah blah. She kept wanting that night to be a "date" I told her she had her chance. She mentioned us dating a few more times that night. I said "wow you're really trying to push this 'date' thing aren't you?"

I had two options, just totally cut her out of my life, or use her for practicing my rapport routines and conversation skills. She'll give me some social proof when we go to bars as well.

So I told her where we stand and she still flirts w/ me. Sigh, oh well she's good practice.

Sounds like good arm candy material. Girls have cute friends, don't burn this bridge.

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Congrats, mate.

lol ya the craziest thing I've noticed is that she started calling me a lot more, but I never answer the phone and she keeps leaving me facebook msgs. Wow it feels good just to show her what it's like. Feels real good. I just wanna give everyone here man hugs!