Hey mate,
Having had a best friend who was almost exactly like this for 5 years, I know exactly how to make this work. He was a narcissist. I say ‘was’ but we’re still good friends actually.
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I'm going to generate a will that can compete with his.
This will not get you very far

. A mindset of competing with an amog will only show traits which are not beneficial to amogging: try-hard-ness, neediness, competitiveness etc. Rather than battling the energy, you need to USE the energy in a way that either makes you look good and him bad, or because he is a friend and you'll be spending time with him in the future, a way that increases BOTH your values.
There are a variety of ways to AMOG. Here, you have to show two main things:
1. You are high value and strong willed, and won’t back down. You’re not a doormat.
2. You are not a threat to him in any way.
The idea is you should not be ‘competing’ with his value. Instead you should find a way that BOTH of your values MUTUALLY increase through the interaction. Play on his side, use his momentum.
First, a couple of ground rules. When he makes a funny joke, LAUGH AND ADD TO THE HUMOUR. All good Amoggers know this is the right thing to do in this situation. Even if the guy is a right prick, you always have to add value, not take it away. Second, if he has made a joke or a comment that is clearly not funny or out of place, call him out on it. Now here is where amogging tactics come in. Example:
AMOG: (Makes a bad joke or snide comment).
PUA: “Haha dude (place hand on shoulder), you know you can do better than that.”
So you’re saying what he said was shit, but it gets accepted under the radar because overall you have placed that comment in a value frame which attaches value to him. Basically frame insults as compliments

. Very clever if done right.
Another great line I made up is: “Haha dude, that was so un-funny that it was actually funny.” So you’re calling him out, but still adding value to him and yourself.
Once you’ve DHV’ed enough and shown you’re not a doormat, he won’t ‘use’ you or tool you so much. Instead he will work with you and together you two will tool everyone else.
A few points on not being a threat. FIRST you show that you can’t be tooled with, then you show you’re not a threat. How do you do this? Qualify him. Phrases like “Dude I like you, you don’t have to impress me.” Are classic AMOG phrases which increase your value and decrease his WHILST you still being completely courteous and nice. But this is still subconsciously confrontational and not so good in the long run if you are friends with the person. If you won’t see him again it’s great. But for you when he tools you, once you have shown you’re not a doormat, just laugh it off HARDER than he does, make fun of yourself, show that you are cool with it. Basically take his joke and make it bigger, even if it’s about you. Take whatever he does and make it bigger. This way you’re adding value and stealing his frame. Awesome.
Much amogging is non-verbal, so make sure you're touching him, slapping him on the back/shoulder, invading his space subtly etc. Also, make sure YOU exude a confidence pose, that is, arms and legs not crossed, standing wide and taking up space etc.
There are some quite high-tech techniques in here, use them wisely buddy, and hope it helps
