I feel like shit because all my friends get dates, talk about getting laid and me, well I haven't been laid in four years!

I've been working on all the aspects of my life for over a year and a half trying to improve my chances with women. I'm not bad at talking to people. When I'm in the zone, i don't even have to think of openers. I know a lot of people and have a reputation, which gives me DHV.

I feel like I'm so close that all i have to do is push myself a little bit more. I need to just go ahead and say screw what anyone thinks and ask a girl out. That's my problem though, I'm either scared to ask someone out or I'm just not sure of how to do it.

I'm in college and see girls in class all the time. That's where I talk to them the most. Could someone please give me some advice. I'm so close, I feel like I could have a date this weekend

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Cheers!:D

You just gotta go for it. Its easy to say. But it seems to me that you've built up this wall. And your psyching your self out of ever climbing it.

I went a long time too. For me it was even kissing a girl. Just every day that passed made it tougher for me to make a move and kiss a girl. But once I broke down that wall. It became easy.

Just go for it. So what if she shuts you down. Its her loss. Just remember if she shuts you down during a cold approach she's just not interested in your approach, its not you. So take a step back, look at the mistakes you made. Ask for advice on this site and go for it again.

You'll be fine. Just get that confidence back that you've lost. Remember your ten feet tall and bullet proof.

Hope this helps,
B-Man

Thanks everyone! I liked that link

I'm not in school and had a steady girlfriend when I was but before I got her the reason I was afraid to ask a girl out was because I thought the rejection would hurt me socially. EVERYONE gets rejected. Mystery, Style, DeAngelo, Jeffries, all of them! The hottest girl on the planet has that guy in her backround that wouldn't give her the time of day. It's a part of life. I'm pretty sure that if you have the social proof you say you do that some of the girls you are talking about think that you are out of their league. This is seduction. We get the ladies to a point where we KNOW they like us. That's the hard part. The easy part is laying that first kiss on them and continuing with the escalation. Girls are not mythical creatures they are human beings with hormones just like us and they get aroused just like us! If I have known a girl a while and have befriended her and I'm interested I always keep sexual undertones. At the point where I'm going to kiss her I play with her hair and put it behind her ear on one side. That's it. If she lets me do that unless she's never been kissed before she KNOWS that's whats about to happen. I keep my hand touching her hair, lean in and kiss her. Good luck bro.

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