My greatest sticking point is the last minute resistance.

Damn, in last friday, I've come back home with a girl, and I dindt #closed her, she said to me that she wanted so bad, but she was afraid, because she didnt know me as well to do that. We're in my bed, kissing and doing some preliminary sex, just that... And I know that it was true.

And it isnt the first time, I almost have some problems with that.

The girl wants, I want, but we dont have sex.

Have you ever get some troubles with that? How you guys solve that?

Thanks.

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This is abit advanced for me (I'm still a rafc with like two k-closes under my belt), but the most usual method for overcoming LMR is the freeze-out.

If you're not familiar with it, it's basically turning away from her "freezing" her out (bring up your laptop, start reading a book, pretend to go to sleep, whatever). I've never tried it, but judging from what people say it's a killer..

Escalate somewhere less obvious than in bed. (like a couch or so)

and "it's ok."


Killer line.
Deliver and turn the temperature down a notch.
So she has to turn it back up, because, believe it or not, most of the time it's just the woman wanting to prove to herself that she's not a "slut".

She "doesn't want to sleep with any man" because that "makes her a slut".

What she needs to trust is that you won't kiss and tell, and that won't judge her for being openly sexual.


When it comes to sex, it happens.
She most likely wants to be able to say "it just happened" as though she didn't see it coming a mile away.

So go easy, up the BT, and let her be clearly wanting it.


It may help to escalate gradually to make it "less obvious" that sex is the goal, and not go straight for the sweet spot.


Anyway, Reassure her that it's ok, and keep going.
Don't judge her for it, and if it gets really bad, you freeze her.


Believe me, if she's turned way on, and suddenly everything disappears, in an instant. (don't gradually turn down the heat, but go from steaming to freezing, you get it ?)

She'll most times feel so uncomfortable that she will try to go back to how it just was, imagine her shock, at you just pulling completely away at the least resistance.


From there on, you continue, escalate, amp the sexual state and fuck her brains out.

(you can of course caveman it, not saying a word, just going for it, and freeze if necessary, which builds a lot of tension she'll want to release, and you've made it clear that the only way out is for her to escalate more sexually)


Hope you find some help here

Cheers.

if you go from steaming to freezing ... wouldnt a likely response from a girl be .... fuck him .. who the hell does he think he is ... no .

but i might see that happening as well " the shock - her going ... i wanna go back to the way it was"

Here we are, one helping another!

In some way, I think Im takin back control of things, but one of the worst things of being in the "Pickup Highway" is that you almost alone in the day by day life...

Its a way that Im convinced that I need to tread out by myself, no one is looking for excellence in my way around, just me.

I'm my worst enemy, and I want to defeat me.

Everyone who asks for sucess in life must do that, won over that war against such old self, its a real bloody war...

Thanks guys for the advices, I'll do my best!!

Rocks!!



Fu$$Bird

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rocky;
Depends on how you freeze,
If you do it really demonstratively, like you were offended, it's bad.

But if you do it like "hey, It's cool, but since it's not going to be sex, I'll just preoccupy myself with something else, since I'm not into the whole teasing thing."
If you get what I mean.

You're not doing it because you think she's wrong to deny you sex, but because you'd rather do other stuff than foreplay if it's not leading to sex.

So if you go, "ok, That's cool, I respect that" and then go fumble around on your computer to put on some music or whatever, before you lean back and chill next to her in the couch, so that e.g. you were first getting heavy in one corner, she LMR'd when you sit down again you lean back in the other corner and just look at her...
Most of the times she'll come over and re-initiate the make-out session, and you'll be able to drive it further.


Dig ?

Big Wolf...

Now I understand the problem with my frezee out, I always look like Im unhappy about all, and just trying to punish her.

I will remember it. Thanks Dude..

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Nothing great will ever be achieved without great men, and men are great only if they are determined to be so.
- Charles de Gaulle

It's never too late to be who you might have been.
- George Eliot