So here is the story. i've known this girl for about 2 years now. She was in a committed relationship the first year i knew her. We've been trying to meet up since the Fall, both of us are college students, but anyways, we recently had dinner after weeks of delays. For every three times she cancels, i have cancelled about twice. However, the problem is that i am getting IoI's but WHEN I call or txt her getting a response is absolutely difficult. however after pissing me off sufficiently she always explains why she flaked (and they have all been valid reasons)...which frustrates me more. i am seeing her this weekend in a group setting. what should i do to ensure that she either responds to forms of communication or responds to me in general. i have already developed enough comfort that she has told me everything about her past. how do i also avoid friend zone?

ok. so you want her to want you. neg her. if you know other hot girls there, then make them laugh to show social proof.

keep building up attraction. dont be scared to be rough. get some routines to DHV. if i were you dude, i would just go for the k-close then and there!! seriously.

oh, and as for the friends zone...keep up with the negs and dont give in to any shit tests and you should be good. basically, dont jump through her hoops.

good luck mate!

here is the situation though. there will be a lot of other people there, one of which is my best friend who is a female. she knows whts going down so she will help wingman. alchohol will be involved. any guidelines regarding that? and as for the other stuff, there IS another guy who uses C & F but just for jokes, not for actualy pua..how do i deal with that and make her respond to me seriously rather than thinking im just like the other guy?

EDIT: now i just got a txt back saying "make other plans"....this girl has a history of flaking like this

my response : haha not surprised. oh well, your suprise {refering to a previous txt} will just have to wait then...


how should i proceed from now

Don't neg her. She is flaking on you because she is not that interested in you to actually make time to see you. I bet you most of her reasons for flaking have been false and not legit ones that she has led you to believe. You need to work on creating sexual tension, and building up her interest in general. Drop DHV spikes and mention other girls you are hanging out with so that you get her jealous.