Here‘s the long story :

On friday I met a girl at my mates party, when party died out we went out clubbing and finished at her place. woke up at 2 pm and I watched football with her head on my lap at her place until 6pm before i left.
her goodbye kiss seemed like she really didn‘t want me to leave yet..

On monday she went on a short 4-5 day holiday out of country.

I dont‘t have problems with 1-night stands, needyness or somesuch, but I haven‘t stopped thinking about her and now I want to know my plan for the weekend when she returns.

Some additional info -

*she lives like 10 minutes walk from me and goes jogging couple of times a week (so do I & at first I thought i would use it for day 2 but probably not)
*she doesn‘t have a bf but has a lot of male- and girlfriends & likes to party several times a week until early morning.
*she had sex with my said mate a couple of months ago

When she returns on friday she probably will want to meet her friends and go out or stay in with them etc so making plans for friday and saturday is probably out of question, because I am not yet at a level of making her choose between me and her friends.

So let‘s say sunday is open. I am pretty positive that if she wants to meet up with me ever again it pretty much doesn‘t matter what I/we do (because i am pretty confident in my game) so I have decided to bring out my big guns and cook her dinner at her place and go for a killshot.

I am 27 and she is in her early 20‘s.

What say you forum, is it a safe bet idea or not? Any other suggestions?
And another question, when should i call her friday, saturday or sunday morning?

No I dont think dinner is a good idea.. I'm sure it seems sweet but not just yet at least from my experience..

I would pop into town to 'get something' and ask her to come along. This seems safe and reasonable and if your confident with your skills it shouldn't be a problem

She's obviously into you, you were with her all night, then you bounced her to HER place where you stayed for like 18 hours?

Yeah, dinner is a good idea but I would wait a few dates before I jump ahead to that.

I would say something like: I'm going on an adventure, come have fun with me.

I would call or txt her ASAP, you want to give her no choice but to be thinking of you and you can feel out her comfort levels.

Cheers,

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cheers for the quick reply.. and sorry for my horrible spelling earlier

Obviously she had to be into me when I was with her as we had sex when we got to her place and also when we woke up, but the strongest signal was during when we watched football (well I did at least ) on her couch.

Tbh she was the one who picked me up as i had set my sights on other girls, but lets say she closed it pretty fast. We went to my mates bedroom and (just were laying on bed and maybe there was some kissing) he came in and was obviously disturbed as 10 minutes later he decided to ditch his own party. Had I known that there had been something between them a few months ago I would have probably stayed away, but anyways..

He also called her the next morning when we were laying in bed and said that he was disappointed in her for acting like that.. She then said to me that she didn‘t think that he was the type of guy to take offence?

Oh and I contemplated of calling her to wish her a nice trip (I never text or IM girls - not my style) right before she got on plane to make sure that I was on her mind but decided against it. Too soon imo, considering the things I just wrote before.

I am not sure about if it was just a 1-night stand or not.
I can‘t figure it out.

If it was, then I still have a wee bit chance of developing it into something serious by keeping some distance, but if not then It really doesn‘t matter. So witholding my urge to contact her I am still kinda keeping both options alive..

And i am not looking for a f-buddy.

So when she comes back i can call her nonchalantly and say : ‘Hey I have an idea why don‘t we get together now that you had fun abroad and have told everything to your friends about your trip, regale me with your stories with.. How about .. ‘ (pasta, movie and wine by me and she should get some dessert). I‘d call her to my place but I am in the middle of refurnishing.
Tbh i am kinda bored meeting people in clubs or pubs week in week out.

Another long story and now that i have read it all I am beginning to think that maybe dinner is a bit ‘in your face‘ discussion during my first phonecall..

Back to the drawing board

Oh and..
It‘s not like I live in Middle-Earth or something

sorry for trying to help, ill make sure to stop that from now on

fuck this forum, people who ask for help bash the people trying to help them?

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and I thought PUA‘s understood the concept of cocky and funny

boT, chill man lighten up.. hes only joking..

Yeahh by the way you described it it sounds like she might have been using you to get to him. Im not saying she is but this is a possibility, so if you notice this then drop her immediately, its not worth losing a friend over.

~.~ sorry i just got bashed really hard the same day by someone else for basically the same reason

my apologies, PUAs unite

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Haha no worries boT, us PUA's need to stick together.

Heh, it is a very good and valid point. I am surprised it didn‘t cross my mind.

But guess we‘ll find out tomorrow eh?

And yes, it‘s always bro‘s before ho‘s for me.

Good mann, let me know how it goes.

update:

Well I called her on saturday to ask about her plans for sat/sun.
We agreed that we‘ll do something on sunday.
I picked her up today and we had dinner in town.
There is a chance we‘ll go jogging tomorrow

Good to hear, keep us posted

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