I was in a bar/club a short while ago. I had been trying my luck for the best part of the evening without too much success. Towards the end of the night a very attractive woman (say a B9) passes through the corridor (this is an area on the way to some stairs or the toilets that people will tend to pass through in large numbers throughout the course of the night; I take up a “strategic position” so that I can get them as they pass me rather than having to go to them; they’re already isolated and it helps if the venue is crowded) I stop here and we have the following exchange:

Me: Excuse me
Her: [she stops]
Me: Come and dance with me [smiling and winking cheekily as I touch her arm]
Her: Oh, I don’t really dance [touching my arm back]
Me: [putting on a fake expression of excruciating pain] aw… come on, you’re gonna break my heart [putting hand on heart]
Her: I’ll come back and dance with you
Me: You promise?
Her: Yeah
Me: OK

At this stage I get propps from the other guys who were eying her as she walked past and saw our exchange. A few minutes later I can see her further down the corridor, hugging two guys, sort of dancing with them, they’re grabbing her and she’s grabbing back… it would seem more out of politeness than anything else. I walk past and tap her. I wave to her as I pass as if to say goodbye. Than….

Her: WAIT!
Me: [stopping briefly and turning] what’s up
Her: Come back here! Where’s my dance [grinning playfully as the guys are still holding her]
Me: Well, I though you were here with these gentlemen, you have your hands full [shrugging]
Her: No, no no… I work with them!
Me: Ah.. OK

I than spit some shit about where she’s from, where she works etc as they’re still holding onto her. Than, they loosen their grip and look the other way for a second. I lead her by the hand and take her a few meters back down the corridor. More idol chit chat, than…

Me: You’re a very attractive woman
Her: You’re cute too
Me: I have an idea, you should let me take you out sometime
Her: OK
Me: Really? [feigning surprise]
Her: Yeah!

Took her number, hugged her as the place was closing, made my exit past the two guys whose pockets I’d just picked. Proceeded to dance down the street triumphantly as I made my way home with my friend who had no idea what had just ahppened.

What I took from this was the importance of being direct. I know there is a school of thought that says you should warm them up, slide in gently, slowly, under the radar. But I find that a lot of girls find it refreshing if you just hit them with it straight. Although I’ll concede this works with girls who seem to already like how I look, how I dance etc.

I’d welcome any suggestion on why else this worked. I haven’t really analyzed it, broken it down to see what I did that swung it.