hey im not sure if you still reply to questions on this thread but ill post mine anyways. im 18 never had a girlfriend i started to read about pua material about 3 months ago but cant seem to implement any of it. im still in high school and its kinda hard to change peoples opinion about you once your a senior in high school so i find it difficult to change. right now im starting to save up for one of your seminars hopefully the one in austin tx in june. another problem i have is that im very shy and self-counscious about myself i have some acne problems, braces and am a little overweight is there any material you recomend to help myself overcome low self-esteem and low confidence???

Hey Adam

I've encountered this recurring Problem in my Love life. Whenever I start getting anywhere with a girl I begin to overthink what will happen months down the line with said girl. As well as being unhealthy and making me very outcome dependent I'm worried they could be picking up on it, although evidence of this is inconclusive. Any suggestions on how to cut this out or at least counter act it?

Hey Adam. Can this pickup stuff work if I have an introverted personality with a soft voice and no friends?

Dear Adam,

I have a lot of girls numbers in my phone, and some of which I would like to reconnect with, but its either I dont know what to say or how should i say to convey interest again. I have been working on getting better organizing day2s with the girls that I do know, but I know I can get better with creating attraction thru text and phone.

Some girls dont respond to the text, but when I see them out they are all hugs and kisses for me. I dont let them no that im angry or at least agitated with them for not responding to the text. Should I do so?

And last but not least most of these girls dont text me or anything, I usually have to be the one to text them to get a response and I feel like Im seeking something from them rather than just textin to be texting them.

How do I recreate the attraction i have with them in the first place? Should I move on?

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Buddy 2 simple questions for you:

1) Your theories should be applied to 7 -10 HBs only or applies to all women? because I found that when I applied your theories to friend close (thx to Dharam for the term) 6 girls or lower, or a girl that hasn't been on a lot of relationship, sometimes they can't understand why I ask them the big questions, even after I got some level of investment from her.

2) If I'm approaching a girl that has never been on a relationship, is it true that the rules are a little bit different? A friend of mine told me (he's good with women, I should say he's a Lady Killer! that I should only apply the theories to girls who have a lot of "approach experience". Because I'll come across as weird if I apply the game too much. Game supposed to make us different than the other guys, right??

Thanks buddy!!

Steven,

Dear keysersoze123,

Hahaha I'm glad to hear it's working out for you mate! Who knows maybe one day I will

AFC Adam,

Dear Ace Rimmer,

Bit of a pickle indeed mate!

Okay first things first. Your friend who cut the ties has made himself scarce and therefor more desirable than before, You have to be careful that you don't come across as too available as that will kill everything and it's a finer line now because of how he handled the situation.

Secondly, don't push for the relationship as that will come across as needy and push the focus from the present to the past or future of relationships which ultimately compares you to every other guy or relationship all the time.

When ever you don't know where you are with a girl go back to the beginning of the model.

(C-R) + Q + SE

don't worry it wont take as long but each area may need a little filling.

If she talks about the dude who cut all ties with you, don't get into a talk about it and just dismiss it by framing him in a immature light and laugh about it. If you take what he's done seriously it shows that he has power over the situation and ultimately the both of you.

If you want to see her again keep it a low investment sort of meet, maybe even another party which her friends will be going to also as she doesn't get to spend much time with them, it will increase the chances of her saying yes.

Above all else mate, watch your investment and don't count on being in a relationship with this girl. Not because of game but because of her lifestyle, full time bar staff really do have no social lives, while everyone parties they're working and while everyone's working they're partying. It just goes with the job and makes relationships hard to work.

In regards to the friend who cut off ties, he has essentially made himself scarce which is desirable as he is presenting himself as ot of reach, It would be very each for you to come across as widely available which is therefore needy, so watch the way you can come across.

Things only have value if you place value on it, don't attach too much meaning or energy to your friends decision to cut off people, the more seriously you are seen to take it the more more you give him, smile and laugh if it comes up “oh yeah that, talk about over reacting. Didn't know he was such a drama queen!”

Whenever you don't know where you are with a girl, forget everything that you've done up til now and start again at the beginning from comfort.

Hope this helps Rimmer old chum!
AFC Adam

Dear Cococo,

No worries buddy, I hope everything works out for you!

AFC Adam,

Dear Kentheman,

No worries buddy I'm glad I could help

Qualification is essentially getting a girl to think about the answer before she gives you one, instead of her giving you one word answers such as a plain Yes or No's

Now on top of that each time she thinks about how she's going to reply to you, she invests in you which is the basis of all attraction.

Qualification usually starts off small:

“So what do you do for fun”

Whenever a girl jumps through a hoop you reward her, ideally with kino.

“omg that's awesome” followed by a high 5 and twirling her around.

The hoops progressively get bigger..

“Tell me three interesting things about yourself”

and so on and so on.

The idea is the she'll learn that by working to give you good answers she'll get rewarded and feel good about it and at the same time she invests her feelings and emotions into you.

Breaking rapport is the spark of attraction while Qualification amplifies that spark into a fire.

And finally be careful to watch out for the levels of rewarding, you don't want to reward a small hoop as you would do with a large one as that will look like neediness. Start small and build up.

Hope this helps,
AFC Adam,

Dear Dang1991,

Hey mate thank you very much for the support

Okay this is going to be a tricky one to explain, Firstly depending on where in the interaction you are with a girl you can get away with very AFC things.

When you know she likes you enough to choose you if she had a choice you can get away with asking “Would you like to go to dinner with me?” you know she's into you so she'll say yes and when in this situation it will help your game a lot because it's very romantic and gets her to invest quite dramatically.

All the “rules” in the community are just guidelines luckily life isn't predictable enough for us to plan for every single situation ever. We need to use common sense and handle each situation as it comes at us and adapt to it, that's where calibration comes into play.

The second part of your question in regards to what I wrote in the Diary of a Pick Up Artist is again the same thing, I knew she liked me and I was using the whole cute AFC angle to get her to invest in “us” If I remember correctly she said something along the lines of “no it's not over” while laughing, which meant she was investing.

I've written quite a few posts on qualification, I think the latest one in this thread is my reply to Kentheman's question, Have a read of that.

Hope this helps buddy
AFC Adam

Dear Jet23,

Unfortunately mate anything you do that isn't an approach wont help you, approaching in itself is the goal, don't worry about approaching well in terms of game, just go out there and talk to a few strangers then after a while you would have built up enough experience to be able to launch into game off of it.

Check out my reply to Eclipse for more details on opening
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Good Luck,
AFC Adam

Dear unlimited_crazed,

Hey mate,

Confidence is situational, any area a person is competent in is an area they are confident in, unfortunately to get to competence your going to have to do it and fail until you get used to the process.

Instead of only reading material I would suggest changing yourself for the better:

If you're shy, take up public speaking, join a club (book, cinema, art, anything!) and a hobby.
If you have acne and are overweight, eat healthier and exercise.

Trust me doing these things will benefit you so much more than reading material would.

AFC Adam,

Dear Solidus

Your problem is that you invest in the girl as soon as she starts to show you anything more than friendship this is clearly scarcity mentality. I'm sure the girls your game do pick up on that vibe and it's affecting your results in a bad way.

You need more women in your life, in fact you need an abundance of women in your life to kill the neediness your sending off to the girl altogether.

Start running more game, start talking to way more girls and surround yourself with them as much as possible. Friendships and girls your sleeping with. Start off by aiming to have more female friends than guy friends.

AFC Adam,

Dear brand79,

Dude that depends on what you'll do with it. If you're talking about downloading various game materials and locking yourself in your room for the next six months without talking to a single girl then no.

But if you're talking about reading a bit to get some idea of what your doing then going out and practicing then yes, a big yes. In my opinion game and self improvement are two sides to the same coin, you have to do both to get good and that will have a direct impact on your life for the better.

Do it mate and do it well!

AFC Adam,

Dear Juice24,

Initially every interaction with a girl should start from the beginning until she invests, What I mean is if you had attraction last night with a girl but for some reason nothing happened and you didn't get a chance to close, the next time you see her you should start off at comfort and work your way through.

Guys are like flicker switches while girls are like dimmer switches, it doesn't take much for us to continue where we left off but girls need to be brought back up to where we left off.

Keep doing what you were doing before, you'll often find that you don't even need to be in a specific place in the model for too long before you have it again.

AFC Adam,