Hello everyone thanks for taking the time to read this. I am a 21 year old guy and the only sex i've ever had is the one i had to pay for, but the most dissapointing thing for me is that girls actually do like me but i run away from them because i'm insecure about my smile and i'm afraid they might not like me and would leave me more sad. I know this because they make it obvious to me they fancy me but I just shy away avoid eye contact and move on...

I'll give you a handful of examples of what happened today.

I live in the uk and today (sat 14-03-09) I went to a clothes retail shop. as i was walking a rather fit polish lady was walking toward me and she was eying me up, I looked at her in the eye and made an expressionless but cross face at her, expectedly she made the same face and i then looked away from her and she walked by.

Continuing up to the last floor of the mens section I decided on the clothes i wanted to buy and waited in the queue. There was an attractive girl behind the counter and she asked me to comeover. Her work colleuge arrived and they started chatting , anyway as she was putting the clothes in the bag she said to her friend she'll get of work at 6.00P.M, then she turned round and give a big blatant smile toward me. Do you know what I said "bye" I took my things and walked away, I could of killed myself right then with the coat hanger for fcuk sake instead of being with her right now i'm typing this. This is how bad men are created.

A few more things i can remember now.

In my college class there's about 8 females and 2 guys me and someone else. You can imagine the sexual tension and i've seen it , anyway, there's this girl in my class I really fancy and she fancies me, anyway about 3 months ago right she asked me if i liked to take a taxi cab with her to the station as we are both arrive there and go our seperate ways. anyway I went with her and we struck up a general convo then at the station we talked for ages cos her train was delayed. I didnt really smoke cigs then but i started smoking to talk with her. We went our seperate ways. then the next week i totally BLANKED her i didnt even look at her, why i dont know I DONT FCUKING KNOW. as she walked by one time in class to leave she called me a tease. I blank her still, but recently I have tried to make an effort to talk to her and she still likes me i think, why i dont know 4 months on. I desperately want to take those taxi lifts with her again and talk to her again but i dont know how to after all this time, she probably thinks i hate her. The problem really is mine not her's . I'm so sad and lonely.

it would help if you asked a question and stated your goals.

my recommendation for you immediately would be the newbie mission.

By blank do you mean forgot her, or ignored? If you forgot, you may have a mild mental disorder. Otherwise, you have a personality problem, and more explaining to do. Were you nervous?

If you forgot I know how you feel...I have made several bad first impressions due to name-forgetting, generally not to girls I'm interested in but still...once I was talking to someone who turned out to be one of the most amazing girls I ever met and I forgot her name for like 10 seconds at a crucial moment when I needed to say it...luckily I stalled and remembered it just in time and I doubt she noticed. Now I'm about to go to college...anticipating a name forgetting nightmare. It happens to me even with people I've known for months. I've resolved to discreetly write down names from now on, to help me remember.

Idk if thats your problem too because your text is unclear and thoughts disorganized....try to work on that. Clear your thoughts and focus.

Now heres what you should do. Join some new club, class, whatever, surround yourself with people who you don't know. It's college, so that should be easy, right (I hope)? You said "you don't know how after all this time"...common problem, so fix it by seeing new people with whom there is no "all this time" issue. Then, make friends with them from the start, don't awkwardly lose contact. If you mess up (If you have some sort of mental/personality problem, you probably will) just do it again. Don't focus on hot girls...guys, ugly girls, all can be your friends and acquaintances. I've found that one friend always introduces you to another, which eventually leads to the amazing girl (although at this point, she is not the goal. Your own well being is dependent on getting friends. We need you to stop being sad and alone.)

As for the people you already know...say something. Anything. Make friends with the one other guy and the other girls, but pay special attention to her. Smile and glance every time she walk by you. Say "nice scarf" or ask her to help you with some problem (whats the class?). Make a joke sometimes, make fun of her sometimes. You can be funny, right? Just try, obviously she isn't the type to harm you after you opened up to her if she doesn't already dislike you. But remember what I said about NEW people.

hiya, everyone i guess the main question then i wanted to ask was how do I ask this girl out? or take those taxi rides again after all this time? When i said blank i meant ignore rather then forget but i do have the problem of forgetting names sometimes but it's not so bad aslong as i continue to know them.

The previous problems could be solved regarding the smiles and stares from random people. I just need to look at them and smile back but i'm quite shy and insecure. my brothers moved out when i was young so i have been bymyself for awhile sort of thing and i consider myself a bit of a loner.

I appreciate all the replies. I hope my message has become more clear now.

where can i learn this sexual technique and newbie mission?

thanks

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She is still giving you IOIs (Indicators of Interest)

What I would suggest is telling her: I'll cover this taxi ride, you get the next one. This way you have already pre-determined that you are going to go with her again.

Everyone has a fear of being lonely, you have taken the biggest step in getting to where you want to be, you are looking for help.

I used to be terrible with women, self-conscious and very shy. The way I think of women now is: What's the absolute worse case scenario that could happen? You will survive

No single interaction is very important, you will probably never see those people again, so try while you can.

Anything worth while is hard, and no risk no reward.

If you have any other questions, post em here and I'll try to help or you can send me a PM

Cheers,

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