Wow that title sounds like the title of a Stephen king novel .

Anyways... Just as a back history, ive done plenty of social pressure exercises in the past, plenty of approaches etc.. but I noticed about a month ago I got in my head the idea that if I do anything too stupid it might get around. Its been bugging me pretty much the whole past month so I decided to post here about it. I guess im saying, if im doing warmups and social pressure exercises, or people just dont like something about my outgoing personality that word will get around town or something. Is this just rediculous or what?

You're worried that word might get around that you're becoming a more likeable, attractive, manly type of person?

I'd actually encourage such rumors!

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Well I guess im worried people WONT Think im attrative likeable and manly.. im afraid theyl think im weird or not cool or something.

If you are the best you can back. You should be your only judge. People see you for who you are if they know you well enough and the people that hear about you will hear it from their friends. This means that if you're a douchebag they will know you're a douchebag. So think positive and you will get positive results. Also, if there are people that like you, there will also be people that hate you, get use to it.

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Ancient tribal mindset...way back when, everyone knew your name and what you did actually mattered. Well, that or small town high-school mindset, if you prefer a more mundane explanation.

Just imagine it happening anywhere else!

Chi - "Hey, I met this one guy named Nex, and he did this weird thing"...
other person "Hahaha...What kinda name is Nex?"

Or if the situation arises when you end up having common acquaintances

Chi - "Hey, once, I saw nex and he did that weird thing"
other person - "HAhaha oh nex..."
Or if its something bad, other person will wonder why I have to talk shit about other people.

Or if I say it to your face in the presence of person B...well then you know how to handle it right? You weren't afraid to do whatever it was so you shouldn't be afraid of me.

Btw what are social pressure exercises exactly?

Quit caring, and you'll soon realize that people won't be worried about what you do.

I'll give you a really good personal example. Me and about 5 or 6 people were over at my place having a small party. I was sitting on the couch with 2 girls (one of which, I had met twice before) and this song I really jam out to came up. I started dancing in my seat.

The new girl I hadn't met kept giving me the WEIRDEST FUCKING LOOKS that were much more funny than my dancing. The other girl, whom I didn't really know well said, "Oh that's just Charlie, he's a crazy fuck that doesn't give a damn!"

I stopped dancing long enough to stand, and bow at the introduction. I took new girl's hand and kissed it, "It is a pleasure to meet you madam."

She ended up naked in my bed about 2 hours later.

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