My ex gf was a 9,5 and we had a very interesting relationship for nearly 2 years. Whenever she would feel depressed, however, she'd come with this "I love you, but I need to feel good by myself...".

Ok, now, I'm in confort building with a SHB 10, kissed close sometimes, i went abroad for a month and we were constantly in touch, I am really in. However, since our last meeting - kiss close again - she got distant, and now said "I really expected that meeting, but I've seen something really changed. Changed towards we've many commonalities, i love to talk to you. But I wanna feel good by myself..."

What does that really mean?? Perhaps that she feels we get along, we have nice time together, but she's afraid commiting and getting dependant on it and I should just call her and keep seeing her?? Or this is typical for them to play?? Anyway, it is a sticking point...

wow I've never heard that before haha. Sounds like your typical "It's not you, it's me" line but I could be wrong. Switch up your game. Intrigue her. get her to chase you

Thanks, Sheer Con. I´ll look at it this way.

Yeah, it resembles the "it's me, not you", for sure, but it is not like dismissing, even though it is no commitment at all.

Anyway, I still would like to understand their real meaning beneath it - which
feeling would drive it??

Any ideas or experiences??

which feeling brings it on you mean? probably buyer's remorse. You've still got comfort but you've lost attraction so you're going to have to work at keeping them attracted. Cocky/funny is the best for this in my experience. Problem is you can't drop the C/F once you hook them but eventually you can tone it down a bit when the relationship progresses. Also try to lead the most attractive lifestyle you can.

I see, Sheer Con. It really could be, and any issues in comfort are a reflex of some trouble in attraction...

I'll do c/f. The only problem I see is that there is no room for mistake with a SHB 10... and this is a particularly new situation for me...

Thanks, man.

Any other ideas??