| So lemme get this straight, you have a girl at your house and you wanna know what music to put on which doesn't make it obvious that you're interested in her? Are you serious? Why else would you be at your house? You're focusing on making her like you rather than finding out which way she likes you.
The reason you're asking about music is because she's asking what you wanna do when you go to your place and you're telling her you just wanna chill out and listen to music, which is bullshit. You don't have to use sexual language, but you do have to let her know what's up. Tell her you wanna put some music on and see how long you can try to keep your hands off each other, something like that. Whatever it is, make it somewhat sexual. And if she asks what kinds of things you'll do if you can't keep your hands off one another... that's an open invitation to tell her, so don't be shy. Say it in her ear, girls like that.
Seriously, do it. If you haven't made your intentions clear in some way, she shouldn't be in your house. Period. If you're being all friendly and nice and there's no sexual tension, you're making her too comfortable and if she doesn't like you in a sexual way then you're gonna get rejected after bringing her home and putting effort in... rather than before you bring her there, which is much less time consuming (and MUCH less emotionally draining). Let's examine...
If you bring a girl home and do nice things and find out later that she only likes you as a friend, you're gonna be fustrated. Who wouldn't be? So, instead of worrying about silly shit like the kind of music you're gonna be playing when you take her home, what you should be doing is finding out if she shares the same interests as you (ie. sex, dating, whatever). This way, the only girls you take home will be the ones who genuinely like you and don't wanna play you. Much better, right? You both know why you're there and even better, you both know that you both know why you're there. It doesn't matter what music you put on or what you do. Sit and talk about stupid crap, escalate things whatever way is comfortable for you.
It's very important for a girl to know where she stands with you, and vice versa. You need to know whether she wants what you want before you bring her home to "chill" because if you're reading her signals wrong, and you make a move when she only likes you as a friend, then it's... awkward moment time. It's fine if you need to pop in to grab something, but if you're actually talking about bringing her back there to chill out she can only be thinking one of two things:
a) You're a nice friendly guy who is fun to hang out with, and/or haven't got the balls to try it with her so she's nice and comfortable. Of course she'll come to your place... after all, sex isn't on her mind and as far as she can tell it isn't on yours either. Very bad move.
b) She's sexually attracted to you and wants you to seduce and make love to her. Of course she will put on the front that she's good and sweet and doesn't move too fast etc, but 99.9% of the time this is resistance - not rejection. Know the difference. If she tells you she's not interested and walks away, it's rejection... but if she's still standing there (even if she's giving you heavy shit while standing there, lol) it's her way of testing to see if you'll stick to your word. And you'd better stick to what you say, cos if you apologise for anything she'll tear you to shreds. Just be honest if she asks anything and don't deny anything... and of course, be persistent. She either tells you she's not interested or she comes home with you, there are no in-betweens. It's usually only a matter of minutes before they're giggling and telling you how terrible you are etc.
Anyway, as you can see, hiding your intentions and pussyfooting around it isn't the way to go. Ever. If she's agreeing to come home with you and you're interested in having sex with her, then you want her to fall into the latter category. Right? So, do you wanna find out which category she's in before you take her home so that you know she wants you, and it's just a matter of making your move when it feels right... or after you sit around listening to music and making idle chat and only having a feeling that she;s into you but you're "not quite sure yet"? Those are your choices, you can do what you wish.
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