A longstanding issue of mine is the tendency of girls who are into me to apparently not be open for dating. My present goal is a relationship (presumably preceded by dating) rather than simply sex, and my inability to transform closes into "seeing someone" is really frustrating. Here's a rundown of the latest instance of this, and if anyone has suggestions for how this could be addressed I'd really appreciate it.

I have seen this girl (college aged) on several occasions. I've made my romantic interest clear, we've gotten physically intimate, and she acts like and says that she likes me.

Despite all this, she says she is not ready to date exclusively. She told me that she's used to a casual dating phase only then followed by willingness to "see someone" exclusively, that supposedly develops naturally. Of course there must be something that leads the girl to become comfortable taking that step, and I'm trying to figure out what it is.

1. Rapport. Perhaps if we spent more time together having fun then she'd be comfortable making a commitment (to the extent that "seeing someone" is a commitment).

2. Demonstration of character. Maybe if I continued to act charming, be a man, lead, be courageous, etc. then things could evolve.

3. Romance. I'm thinking through heartfelt monologues on how great she is, candle-lit poetry, gifts, etc. she might be up for something more than casual dating.

From your experiences, are any of these points of emphasis on point? Is there another approach I should pursue? Or do you guys think that her present unwillingness to date exclusively means this is a lost cause, despite her stated desire to keep things casual at first? Thanks again.

Dude aint cuttin it, did you try to verbally confirm your status with her or something, like saying "How do you feel about me baby?" etc? Sounds like just the way your talking from this topic that you did more than you should have talking wise or possibly scared her away.

Spending more time together isnt going to make a damn thing better if shes not "Willing" in the first place. If anything allow her space.

Number #2 stands out there. I dont know about you but unless this chick offers something to you that you cannot get elsewhere idk why your so serious and worried about it. Maybe she caught wind of your serious attitude and shes not looking for anything more than play? You never know...

I see this alot,dudes are trying to hold down some girl after a single kiss, like it meant the world to them.