so I've seen my ex g/f around campus a lot latley one day she texts me and says "hey saw you walk by my class!" which kind of opened it up for me to talk to her again and we ended up hanging out, now we hang out about once a week for an hour or 2 before we have class...I've over heard her say to a friend shes having boyfriend troubles her boyfriend lives in another state 12 hours away they've been dating for a year...we have been broken up for a year we dated 3 years...well just wondering how I can turn the hanging out into more than friends and win her over again

I'm just scared that if I try and make a move and shes actually has no intrest that it will make it akward again and we wont hang out anymore and shes one of the few ppl that knows everything about me and I can talk to for hours and hours with not getting bored...shes the one who got away

Ask her point blank. "do you think there is any possibilty that we could start seeing each other like we used to? before she answers, check her body language. than say "Don't get me wrong, I'm totally cool just being your friend just like we are now cuz great friends are hard to replace, but I was just kicking the idea around the other day." (say this very casually!!) This should get a conversation started between you 2 about the "good times" and the "what ifs". The only problem here is that your old 3 year relationship ended once. Why did it? If it was that good, why is she with someone else? I know you probably loved this HB a great deal and want to be intimate with her some more, but the other part of me says your on a PUA forum so that you can better yourself and find somebody new. Im sure if you were with her for 3 years she has some great qualities, but I think you have also found a place you can come to do even better. I don't play second fiddle with any woman for any reason ever. I would recommend you respect yourself and not be her rebound and do the same. It won't be easy but believe me, the sooner you stop believing she just "got away" the sooner you can focus on bettering yourself and attracting that new one who will not get away.

Further to what sub-zero said you don't want to risk the friendship.

I'm in a very similar situation, except that she hasn't had a bf inbetween.

I'm toying with the idea of pitching to her 'We really have fun together, we could have more fun if this friendship (key into not falling into a relationship scenario) was more than just plutonic'

yeah good points, I'll defiantly try that and see..her new boyfriend was actually a guy she dated in the past before me & her got together and they dated for about 7 months and then he moved to go to college and she only gets to see him maybe once a month or every two months

but anyways we broke up because we were fighting a lot she was having issues with her family and the death of a friend and it caused problems between us and there were a few things she didnt like about me which I worked on and have changed in the past year and I feel like now the things that both of us didnt like about each other are over and were diffrent people so I think it could work out and be great but then again I have no idea how shes feels since shes the one who ended it in the first place

she gets a lot of attention from guys at school atleast 3 or 4 guys have asked her out in the past few weeks, as shes a model and very good looking

and your right about being on this site to find someone better, unforentally I havent had much luck in that field in the past year..got plenty of numbers but they dont seem to be what I'm looking for..I think my problem is I compare everyone to the ex g/f and they have to be as good or better or I dont give them a chance (not even looks wise just personality and attiude)

How did you get on Classic_Crime_INC?

I basically was upfront but tactful and said I was looking for more than going out as friends.

She gave an honest answer. She doesn't think she is looking for more, and is just enjoying things how they are. But commented she really enjoys going out together.

Well now we both know where we stand and I have closure of some sorts. She knows what I think so if she changes its up to her! In the mean time I think a freeze out is necessary to kick this one-itus. If she wants to keep meeting up I'll think of that as a more serious IOI now. I still don't consider it a true friend-zone as we went out for a long time and she hasn't had any bf inbetween.

So my play is game every other chick, have a good time and let things lie and not suggest to meet up for a couple of months or so. Am I on the correct path?

still hang out everyweek, talked online the other night she sent me a message on facebook about my status and we talked for an hour she explained how she dumped her boyfriend and how he is already talking to other girls so now shes talking to other guys...yesterday I was texting her and then she told me shes seeing someone and I asked who and it's a guy from her class who is 11 years older than her and looks exactly like her dad...which I replied thats creepy/weird and she didnt reply back so not sure whats going to happen now

Personally i would just drop it at this point. Not to sound harsh, but it seems to me that she had a plan all along to date this other guy if she's already seeing him this soon.

But, if you want to pursue it anyways, here's how i would go about it....

Since you 2 have a history already, use that to your advantage. Next time you see her, don't make any kind of indication that you're interested in the least. If she brings up the new guy, just give her a reply that surmounts to "well, thats nice." Don't be cocky about it, or spiteful, just act like its not a big deal. Then somehow bring up some of the good times you had together, maybe a funny story about an occasion you 2 had. Be really engaging and try to get her to really tune in on those times. Then, when you feel that she's having a good time reliving all those moments, drop a bomb on her by talking about some other girls (it's ok to make them up if there arent really any) that you've been interested in. Don't get too indepth on the details of them, just mention in passing something about hanging out with this girl or that. Don't make it sexual either, let her imagination conjure that up on its own.

She most likely wont make any kind of move or give any indication to what she's thinking right then and there, but she WILL think about it. Especially if she thinks that they might become more important to you than she is. After some time, if she's really still even just a little interested in you, she'll throw out some hints, or maybe even make a move. You said that she's a gorgeous girl, a model, and like any gorgeous girl out there, she's used to attention. If you take some of that away, she'll want to win you back.

Good luck with it!

thats actually the best advice I've heard so far! thanks a lot

honestly I think the new guy is a lie, because shes always making fun of him when we talk and saying that he looks just like her dad and its weird that he flirts with her...so I'm thinking shes just "seeing him" to make her ex jealous since he moved on so fast

shes the type of girl who will move on fast and get a new boyfriend she doesnt stay single for more than a few weeks usually but I dont think this one is serious, so I'll give it a shot and see where it goes...never hurts to try