Okay obviously this is not done, and to be honest with you I love talking about this kind of stuff,
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“Someone's making a hell of a lot of value judgments for a psych major.'
I am in a double major of political science and psychology. Yes, im taking those courses, but it does not mean a thing when it comes to who I am.
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“One of the most promiscuous girls I know (not the Coastie, although she's cool too) is also one of the most well-put-together people I know. Never been raped, no psychological problems, nothing.
And if she meets a guy she likes, she tries to sleep with him. And she succeeds, unless he's got a girlfriend and won't cheat, or if he has some kind of sexual hangup that gives him LMR.”
That is the beauty about the human mind, it is always changing, and I guarantee you 10 years from now she is not going to be that girl. People grow out of certain phases in their life. In example: trying to best at everything, or tying to be the most popular kid in school. If they do not change, they will feel a weird feeling inside, as if their life is not complete. Why do you think most guys have a mid life crisis. Oh my wife is not hot enough, my car is not good enough oh my house is not big enough, im going to replace them all. When in reality all they had to do was hit the next phase of their life. None in this community is going to be a player forever, and that is why every straight guy in America looks up to Hue Hefner.
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“Girls are NOT virginal little angels whose sexual experience consists entirely of lying back and thinking of England. They have sex drives. They do, in fact, want to get laid. The amount of "comfort" they need before they want to get down depends on a number of factors, including their upbringing, the guy's opinion of them (most LMR comes from the girl believing that the GUY is congruence-testing HER to see if she's a slut), and the social consequences of sleeping with the guy (ever met a girl who was on vacation? No social consequences = time to party).”
What many guys do not realize is, if we don’t have a role of the one who chooses, and the one who is trying to convince, there would be no need for attraction, it would just be endless amounts of worthless sex. The only reason why the human race has evolved to the point it is right now is because it weeded out the “unsuitable” roaming around. Ever hear of a book called “The Brave New World”? If not you should take a glimpse at it. The only reason why a woman does not go around sleeping with countless amount of guys is due to the fact that if she does, the value of her will decrease. No one wants something that intimate to have been shared with the rest of the world, that’s why girls who have boyfriends and have that sort of history has to hide it from them, or else it will change everything.
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“And you know what? We like them that way. Finally, we can all be honest with each other and not judge one another for wanting sex. There are no sluts and there are no players.”
If this were to ever occur, you would loose the challenge that you go out every night and try to overcome. If this were to become a reality, anyone, and I mean anyone could get laid. Besides it would actually set the human kind backwards, were no different that animals when it comes to genetics, just a more advanced prototype.
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“I'm actually happy that Dre came and started this up. Sexual morality is something we don't normally like to discuss up in here because the consensus opinion is that you shouldn't be judgmental about sex, full stop. But this is an inner game issue that a lot of guys are trying to deal with (self included). They trip themselves up in plenty of ways because they're worried that what they're doing is immoral, and the reason they think that is because they've been told their whole lives that girls want marriage and wear chastity belts and any "seducer" who pulls them away from that is an evil, evil person.”
I love discussion, it stimulates the mind, and here is some research behind the purpose of marriage:
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Research findings linking family structure and parents’ marital status with children’s well-being are very consistent. The majority of children who are not raised by both biological parents manage to grow up without serious problems, especially after a period of adjustment for children whose parents divorce. Yet, on average, children in single-parent families are more likely to have problems than are children who live in intact families headed by two biological parents. Children born to unmarried mothers are more likely to be poor, to grow up in a single-parent family, and to experience multiple living arrangements during childhood. These factors, in turn, are associated with lower educational attainment and a higher risk of teen and non-marital childbearing. Divorce is linked to academic and behavior problems among children, including depression, antisocial behavior, impulsive/hyperactive behavior, and school behavior problems. Mental health problems linked to marital disruption have also been identified among young adults.
Children growing up with stepparents also have lower levels of well-being than children growing up with biological parents. Thus, it is not simply the presence of two parents, as some have assumed, but the presence of
Of course, the quality of a marriage also affects children. Specifically, children benefit from a low-conflict marriage. Children who grow up in an intact but high-conflict marriage have worse emotional well-being than children whose parents are in a low-conflict marriage. Indeed, domestic violence can be very destructive to children’s development. Although research is limited, when researchers have compared marriage to cohabitation, they have found that marriage is associated with better outcomes for children. One reason is that cohabiting unions are generally more fragile than marriage. This fragility means that children born to unmarried, cohabiting parents are likely to experience instability in their living arrangements, and research shows that multiple changes in family structure or living arrangements can undermine children’s development. Thus research clearly finds that different family structures can increase or decrease children’s risk of poor outcomes, for a variety of reasons. For example, families are more likely to be poor or low-income if they are headed by a single parent. Beyond this heightened risk of economic deprivation, the children in these families have poorer relationships with their parents, particularly with their biological father, and receive lower levels of parental supervision and monitoring. In addition, the conflict surrounding the demise and breakup of a marriage or relationship can be harmful to children.
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“While, in fact, guys have been causing girls misery for millennia by making them feel judged for following their own urges.
But come on, man....
The reason why someone does not go out and murder whom ever they please, it is due to the fact that they have morals; statements from right and wrong.
Are you actually drawing a parallel between a one-night-stand and killing someone?”
I was merely trying to prove a point, that every one knows what is right and what is wrong, you take it into your own hands to make the decision, and choose to either be right, or wrong. The way that you know what is right and wrong is chosen by your culture. Hence, if you do not like your culture, there are plenty of others around the world, shit; you might even be able to create one of your own.
Hope that you can see my case
Best of luck
-Dre
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