Mary Jane is a fickle mistress.
I didn't
start smoking bud until November, and it helped my inner game tremendously (that third link in my sig? Brought to you by marijuana). But that probably had something to do with the way I was using it; it was more of an introspective/meditation thing for me, as opposed to a "hooray, let's get blowed and party" or "hooray, let's meld with the couch, eat Doritos, and watch Harold and Kumar" thing.
Going out high is not the best idea in the world. Your speech patterns will be messed up, as will your body language, and you might end up with worse AA than ever before. Or if you smoke just one or two hits, you'll be more relaxed and
better than normal. That's certainly been the case for me.
Set and setting, I suppose.
As for your friend, he's got to roll sober when he's starting out. And he can't smoke up and stay home.
In any event, some of the best naturals I know are potheads. Jlaix has also been known to blaze on occasion (nowhere near as much as he used to, though). It's like anything else with weed: it's just a plant. How you use it is YOUR responsibility.
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