Hey guys. I'm a good looking 19year old with the right style and with the right moves yet, the last few times I have been clubbing I have had no interaction with HB's whilst my wings are number closing and kiss closing with at least 5 or 6 girls. My friends say that my problem is I expect girls to approach me on the dance floor etc, which I think is true, is there any way to over come this???
I think my other problem is I over think the situation e.g. "what if she doesnt want to dance, has a bf, isnt interested in me, will reject" and after thinking all this I just knock down my own confidence and outer appearence is there anything I can do???
Once I do start talking to HB's though Im finding it hard to keep conversation as I'm too shy to think of what to say lol
Any advise or help would be much appreciated

Thanks

be a predator, become an animal just for one time. here is what you should do: you give yourself one mission the next night: be a predator. do what you are not supposed to do, what you are not used to do: approach, direct or indirect, make it clear you want to kiss close-number close... anything you usually don't do. just do it for fun one night. then you'll see how you feel. your confidence will grow from there.

Thanks for the advise will try it out next time

I feel the exact same Fuckin way ....

i know exacly where your comming from... i think its just having the bottle and a bit of arrogance/stubborness if u get blasted just get on a next girl

everyone has fear of the approach, best way to relieve it is with the 3 second rule - approach within 3 seconds of locking eyes with her.

One of my favourite things to do at the bar on the dancefloor is just go there - with your wing or yourself - notice who is within 5-8 feet of you. Girls dont often open up sets of guys, but by aligning themselves around they, they are inviting you to come. Either bump into them or wave them over with your winger, or put your hands out.

As far as your anxiety, just think about this: Girls at the bar are there for a reason, to meet people, if they wanted to drink they can do that anywhere. Don't get caught up in the 'what ifs' they will only destroy your confidence. This is the absolute worst case scenario after failing a set: She rejects you, maybe you see her again a few weeks later and shes like 'oh you're the guy i rejected' if you can deal with that, you can deal with any other outcome.

Hope it helps

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no risk, no reward

why dont u go in with an attitude of 'fuck it'. all those little questions u just made fuck up your confidence like u said. just go in not giving a shit if u get rejected, u are going to build up your confidence and u will become comfortable approaching.

Thankyou guys, going to be putting this all in practise on my next sarging session! Any ideas on openers for dancefloor, or night club scene???

Thanks

TYBG