I'm walking a fine line with this this girl because she is a good friend & I hate to risk the friendship or make it weird, which is one reason I am looking for an under the radar approach like NLP to amp up some attraction, hopefully to the point she will send me signals its ok to make a move. I haven't hit on her once at this point since we were both seeing people but she just broke up with her BF & I got cut loose by the girl I was seeing.

We have a lot of comfort & rapport, seems like it would be easy to slip in an incredible connection pattern. I don't even think it would be weird to talk about a sexual pattern, as we have had frank sexual dissucions before. That's said I think it would be useless as she isn't very sexual & sex really seams to annoy her & certainly doesn't seem to drive her. I think to get anywhere I would have to connect on another level like the connection pattern. Got any suggestions?

I've never tried NLP on a friend but not sure why more people in the friendzone don't try it? You already have the tough part of building comfort & rapport. Am I missing something?

HELP HER FEEL GOOD

Here, I will make you feel good, warm and trustful by having you imagine the symbol of eternal love and happiness
- the rose - in extravagant detail.

Look...when you think about it...everything is fleeting. It's not how long you've had a guy.. it's the wonderful memories that you can share together, right here, and right now. Let me give you an example. Imagine... a rose. A beautiful rose... now... hold it by the stem... gently... mind the thorns... now... look at the petals... notice the soft color of the petals... and how soft the petals are to touch... how silky smooth they are... it's such a wonderful, beautiful thing of creation... now... look at it in wonder of nature's beauty. Realize now... that this rose... may not look like this any more... perhaps in a couple of hours... it will lose its freshness as it eventually withers. But what's important... right now... is that you are looking at it... in all its splendor and beauty. Right now, you have it... for you to enjoy. For your eyes to look at... for it to warm your heart and make you feel so good. It's just like love. It may not always be there... it may be with you for only a short time... what's important... is to make every moment count... to make every memory of it a wonderful thing to look back upon.

What. You can't trust anyone anymore. You will just get hurt again....?

Okay. This will make "feel better."

Take a deep breath... and that rose that you're holding... now... I'm handing back this rose... back to you...take it gently from my hand... Now... doesn't that feel so good... just to realize that you can trust someone with your deepest longings... your fondest dreams... your greatest desires? I'll be there if you need me. Okay...one last thing...what I want you to do... is to look down at where that good feeling is coming from... and notice how it can get twice as strong... twice as good when you allow it to grow.

I'm hugging you now... feel the warmth of my arms.

Picture that rose in your mind, smell the fragrance, see the frops of sparkling dew on the leaves, feel how the thorns are so sharp they penetrate your skin, yet somehow the feeling is pleasurable, like the feelings of surrender, now to me I find that when I give a rose with my imagination, it's so much more real that those roses that other guys give, because they fade away, whereas the rose I have given you will stay in your heart always, growing a little each day, until perhaps we'll meet again.

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IF SHE IS HAVING A BAD DAY

Do you ever have a down day and feel bad?

I learned this great visualization exercise in a relaxation book, and I will share it with you if you would like me to.

This will allow you to feel really great at any time... allow you to feel absolutely wonderful, at any time you wish.


You know, this great visualization exercise really has helped me just perk myself up during the day and just make me feel wonderful. Would you like me to show it to you, so that you too can do this and feel absolutely wonderful? It will only take a minute or two and really will bless you with the things it can do for you.

Okay. I would love to share this with you and really contribute to your happiness. I invite you to visualize a mental screen much like a movie screen, in front of you. As you see this mental screen, allow yourself to see your favorite flower. And, as you see this flower, allow the full sensory rich detail of the flower to be on the mental screen. See it in vivid color, each detail of the flower springing forth. Now, if I were to ask you which type of flower you are seeing, what would you say was the type of the flower?

Doesn't it feel wonderful to see it in such beautiful detail? As you see that flower, see the beautiful color of it. Allow the rich texture of it to become alive. While you see this color, hear the rustle of the petals as you see the wind blow slightly against it. And, reach out and allow the smell to become stronger, richer, and oh so beautiful. You can notice that it makes you feel so relaxed and comfortable.

Now, as you look at this beautiful flower... if you were to visualize a picture of a family member you love dearly, like say your child, parent, or someone special, where would it be on the mental screen. Allow yourself to notice the location of where that picture was. What would really make that flower wonderful, would be to place that flower in the same location as where you saw the picture of that person. As you now see the picture of the flower in that special place, let each petal of the flower represent some aspect of a goal, dream, or wish you want to have in your life. Allow your unconscious mind to place those goals, dreams, and wishes in the flower. As you do this, see me in that picture smiling as you hand me that flower to hold for you. Allowing you to feel wonderful at the knowledge that you can ask for the flower at any moment and I will hand it to you and making you feel so wonderful.

Now as you feel these feelings, see that picture becoming more clear, more focused. The picture is full of rich texture, reach three-dimensional detail. Allow the smell to grow, smell the sweet scent of the flower. Allow the picture to grow larger, with each breath, it grows larger. And as you see it grow, the picture comes closer to you…become more clear. Moving closer to you. See the color becoming more vivid, more detailed. And, it becomes more sharp, and becomes more and more like a movie... with movement.

Now, allow your mind to take this flower within yourself. Sometimes, the conscious mind gets in the way of your growth. Allow your unconscious mind to find that special place within you. That special place where you hold everything to be absolutely true. You know where that special place is, and as you feel and sense that special place, allow the picture of me holding that flower to go deep inside within that special place and lock in there. As that picture of me holding the flower locks in, hear the clanging sound similar to the slamming of a gate. You know that the picture is now locked into your place of absolute truth.

Now, it might surprise you how your unconscious mind will allow this picture of me holding the flower to pop up during your days to remind you of these wonderful feelings and allow you to feel so fabulous. And, during your sleep, your unconscious mind will allow this to become a dream...helping you to feel so good.

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FALLING IN LOVE EXPOSED
You might be able to use this to get her to
think about you...

Here's how people fall in love: First, understand you do NOT fall in love with someone when you're in their presence. No. You fall in love when you're off by yourself, thinking about them afterwards. This is why it's so damn powerful, almost hypnotic, because you are doing it to yourself, and people are always their best hypnotists.

Here's how it happens: You go out with someone, maybe even one date. And then you go home and you're lying there, thinking about them. And you form an image of them in your mind. And as you do that, you start to list to yourself all the qualities about them that you like, "He's so, he's so, he's really." Maybe then you picture you and them having lots of fun in all sorts of situations. Then you get that warm, funny feeling right in your solar plexus, and then, the nail in your coffin, you say his name to yourself 2 or 3 times. If you're really into him, maybe you even dance around the house singing it!! Or you possibly go about bring up his name in every conversation!

Sound familiar? Now, as you recall the times in your past when you did this, were you then able to stay cool, in control of yourself AND the relationship? Or were you calling him every day, always wanting to see him, and eager to kiss his ass, to the point where he, of course, dropped you?

Here's the point: "Love" is a process people do to themselves! It's not a thing you trip over or a hole you fall into. And I know, even though I'm not there watching you, that as I describe it here on your screen, you recalled and went through that process yourself, and recalled the feelings associated with it. And if I can do it to you, right here, when I'm not even there, then anyone can, if they know how, skillfully describe this (or any other) process to you in your presence, link it to themself, and in a matter of minutes, cause you to undergo this process and fall in love with him on the spot!

AS FOR THE CONNECTION PATTERN

Read this WORD FOR WORD... -> FastSeduction Article with the Connection Pattern: http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/03_A ... tion.shtml

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Hey Dave,

A couple of initial points somewhat unrelated to NLP:
I would be careful in enforcing that judgement - I have yet to meet a girl who, when stripped down of all societal taboo and conditioning, does not just want to have sex sometimes. The chances are she can't fully express her love for sex and feeling sexual (either consciously or unconsciously). There may even be Freudian defence mechanisms involved where it is unconscious, for instance repression or denial. But I do think holding this assumption will change the way you approach picking her up, potentially for the worse.

The second point is that if you wanted to pick her up, comfort and rapport are not necessarily a good combination. Remember Adam Lyon's model of attraction breaks rapport. Becoming friends it NOT beneficial to pickup.

You need to start teasing and kino more, and hit the trigger 'willingness to emote', i.e. playfully disagree with her more to show her you are willing to invoke all sorts of emotions with her.

With regards to NLP, yes, this is a great time to use it! NLP is not something we just switch on and off, but yeah for sure, pattern the sh!t out of her!

There are many incredible connection patterns, and you can pretty much make them up on the spot once you've read a few.

Just make sure that you incorporate the following for maximum effect:

-emotional connections
-visualising
-body sensations
-asking questions that allow her to access her core identity in order to answer you (eliciting her values)

...and there you have the fundamental components of Speed Seduction.

A final trick is to always link whatever emotions, visualisations or body sensations you have invoked in her to you. For example if you are messing around with energy (symbols), have her put that incredible energy into you.

If you are getting her to visualise, have her visualise you in there somewhere. The link will be very powerful considering she is visualising something attractive. You can do this with a false choice:

"Now I'm just curious, for kicks, do you think you could imagine us together in some way?"

(yeah)

"Cool. So do you want to imagine a hypothetical or pretend situation where we're together in some way (in the future if you want to include a time distortion), and I've just poured watermelon juice all over your head."

The last bit I usually include if my calibration of her returned negatively whilst verbalising the pattern. This basically takes the emphasis off the 'you being together with her' making her much more likely to accepit it.

Be sure to lead into the pattern from previous conversational threads. Also remember to stack patterns. The more the better. Include as many senses in your patterning as possible.

Happy sarging!

Sexual Frame, dude.

That's the easiest, applied NLP-technique.
Get a sexual vibe going, and start teasing her.

This can be pretty under the radar, depending on your delivery.


stuff that insinuates she's thinking of you in a sexual context.
Of course you can start out with it being jokingly, but as she doesn't deny it, she accepts it, in a way.

or go all the way. GM-style
"Oh my god, You're thinking of fucking the shit out of me right now. weren't you? ... just kidding"
"You know, some people,(point to self) with ESP-like abilities and stuff, can feel when women, like you, fantasize about me, late at night... It's really freaky. I never knew you were that into me. " (This is kinda C&F/GM (if you add a "just kidding" then bust her balls for believing you, if she blushes) -not field tested, yet, but I'm going to play around with it tomorrow with a girl I know who is really into alternative stuff like that)



Btw:
Be a bit careful using NLP techniques with powerful emotional states (If you pick a state, pick Lust, or something of that effect. the L.O.V.E. can be a pretty dangerous emotion to play around with. And trust me, you do not want to get burned on this one. Stalker-chick/Suicide-Hot-Line chick ensues unless you're really serious about LTR.)

So, if you play around and try stuff like Symbolic Morphology (where you associate a colour with a state, and then, along with her, imagine shaping a ball of that colour, and change the submodalities of it (like intensity, opacity, saturation, size etc.)) Don't pick "Love" but rather something like "excitement" or "lust"/"how it feels to be really turned on" or something not as "deep".

(if you do this with any state you can plant suggestions like "and notice how it keeps growing, slowly, even when I'm not here," or together imagine a ball surging from each of your centers, and sort of forming a magnetic longing for eachother... ps-not field tested that last bit. I'm just brainstorming.
Powerful Stuff, so Potentially Dangerous. hehe)



Cheers ;P