Not really sure where i should post this but yeh.

Lately i have been dating a lot of women and its been pretty fun for the most part however i have this fucked up problem and its really getting me down and costing me big time with women,

I am a recovering addict, i have been clean for 4 years now so its ok you know, i am doing well...but i have this big fucking scar on my arm from needles and because i have olive complection it sticks out really badly..

This has cost me two great girls recently, like after a couple of weeks they will notice it and ask me what it is and just like that it all comes apart...i have tried lying about it but its so obvious what it is that i just come across as an asshole. i have tried using a bit of makeup to cover it up but it just look worse still...

so what can i do, i mean i cant afford laser therapy or anything, i have tried vitamin e oil and rosehip oil, has anyone got any ideas how i can overcome this hurdle when it comes up?

I just got dumped by a girl i liked quite a bit threedays after she saw it..so yeh, i dunno, its getting me down

thanks

Hmm its a tough one but I think you jsut have to be honest with them before things get too serious, probably before you sleep with them. I got a pretty healthy habit for something a while back but I think it is all about how you portray it. If you are shy and try to hide it, they may think you are sneaky and trying to hide an active addiction but if you are upfront about it and explain why (major kudos for vulnerability and openness) you should do alright.
So anyways don't ever try to hide it if anything say something like " I made a lot of mistakes in my life but every single decision good or bad has led me to this moment, with you. So in a messed up way its a good thing and I learnt so much from that experience etc etc"

Hope that helps

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First of all, I have had my share of experiences with drugs but not addiction, so that's where I'm coming from. It sounds like you are owning your life. It's where we've been that has made us who we are. Seriously, how many people lack the strength to overcome what you've been through. Own it man.. its nothing to be ashamed about. Hell, I wonder if you can reframe it as a plus rather than a negative. In my opinion their reaction says little about you. It's their problem, and says more about them than you.

" I made a lot of mistakes in my life but every single decision good or bad has led me to this moment, with you. So in a messed up way its a good thing and I learnt so much from that experience etc etc"


Thats pretty good hey, thing is the night before she noticed it we were in bed and she told me her brother died 8 years ago from an overdose, my heart sank man, then the next day she see's it and i know i got trouble, i told her straight up what it was and assured her i was ok now but yeh, the other girl just saw it asked what it was, i said some bullshit about it being something else and i never heard from her again.

" I made a lot of mistakes in my life but every single decision good or bad has led me to this moment, with you. So in a messed up way its a good thing and I learnt so much from that experience etc etc"


Thats pretty good hey, thing is the night before she noticed it we were in bed and she told me her brother died 8 years ago from an overdose, my heart sank man, then the next day she see's it and i know i got trouble, i told her straight up what it was and assured her i was ok now but yeh, the other girl just saw it asked what it was, i said some bullshit about it being something else and i never heard from her again.

" I made a lot of mistakes in my life but every single decision good or bad has led me to this moment, with you. So in a messed up way its a good thing and I learnt so much from that experience etc etc"


Thats pretty good hey, thing is the night before she noticed it we were in bed and she told me her brother died 8 years ago from an overdose, my heart sank man, then the next day she see's it and i know i got trouble, i told her straight up what it was and assured her i was ok now but yeh, the other girl just saw it asked what it was, i said some bullshit about it being something else and i never heard from her again.

computer messed up sorry about multiple replies, and thanks jkenpo its encouraging

Yup the situation with the dead bro probably wouldn't have gone any different whatever way you played it, you would either get an over protective stalker type or she would avoid getting hurt again.

But yeah jkenpo is right just spin it to be a positive and tell them before sex. This way if they stick around things will probably work out well and they genuinely really like you, I told the girl I am kinda seeing SPAM that I was a PUA the 2nd time I met up with her and despite initial objections I framed it like, if I can get women don't you think it says something that I have chosen you over every other girl.

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