Really, you should be able to get the # using online game. Can you be more specific? You mean like you meet a girl from online on a date but didn't get her # first, so know you need to # close?

I'm trying to figure out what you are getting at. Most of the time it's as simple as handing her your cell phone. She knows what to do.

Or you can use various lines and things.

If already talking online you might simply suggest to take the conversation to the phone. I'll be typing along talking to her. I'll insert a time constraint of some sort. Then say. Do you text? Either way then I simply say, I have to go but what is your # so we can continue this conversation later?

Do these things answer you question or do you have a specific instance you want assistance with. Either way I'm happy to help out.

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I thank you for your willing to help me.
You're right about ggetting inside of my problem, to specifiy it;
i got girls' msn adresses and talk with them i know they're from the same city with me. But the problem is here is a conservative country so i don't know what to say in order to have their phone number. for a few times i tried the same answer was given:i don't know my number to somebodyelse i don't know. so what must i do i think there must be some easy ways in order to be able to get their numbers do you know of some tricks or persuading methods ? Could i know state my problem exactly asking again,how can i get a girl's number after i'm in the stage of comfort ?

There is no fancy trick of words to use. You simply ask for it when you are in comfort. I usualy simply suggest it. Sometimes I'll setup a date via IM and then get her #. There are lots of ways to do it, there is no really wrong way to ask. There is only the wrong time.

If you have built attraction and you feel you're in comfort after building some good rapport then simply ask. "I have a few things coming up over the next few days where I'll be busy. I still would like to continue our conversation. Give me your number and I'll call or text you."

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I am aware i'm asking a lot but i have one more question when can i think of "yes i can wnant number now"?
Because i am gaming i am in somfort and then i think yes it's time to but the answer is the same "no i don't give my number those whom i don't know well" so what are the best signs of comfort in online game

If you are getting that then you are building proper comfort. There is a difference between just talking about random stuff and comfort. I just wrote about this on my blog today actually, so check that out by click the link. It just so happens it relates.

Anyways, most guys think of comfort as talking about where you live, how many siblings they have, favorite food, favorite team, what friends they have, and that's mostly it. Most of the responses to this stuff is random one word answers.

Realize this has nothing to do really with the amount of time you've talked to her. I could talk to a girl for days or even weeks online and not build comfort with her. It's completely possible, I know because I've done it when trying to get better with this stuff. I might have situational rapport with her but no real comfort.

The idea behind building comfort is really building a "connection" to her. She needs to see things from her own life inside you and your life. You might here this referred to as grounding yourself in her reality.

Let's say for example she's talking about how when she use to have a bad day her brother would take her out for icecream and talk to her until she felt better. And how she loves her brother so much for being there for her and stuff like that.

You could go into how you feel the same way. And how you are like that for your sisters or a friend who happens to be a girl in your life. Basically you use something in your own life to relate to the same "feeling" that she has. That was she can see part of herself inside you. Hence, "Grounding yourself in her reality."

Not just talking about well I'm from xxxx and I do xxxx. You really talk about things and how you feel about them. She tells you how she feels and thinks about things. You do more than just build some common information about each other like birthdays or other trivial stuff, you make a real "connection" to her.

When you do that I garauntee you will get more consistent results. Make sure to take the proper amount of time to do this and don't shortcut yourself. Because of emails and IMs this may take a while to get to the point she is really comfortable with you. Be patient, and don't ask for her number too early.

Hope this helps buddy!

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hank you guy! This was what i was obviously looking for. After i've read your last message i've got that i wasn't building a comfort but just a conversation. So what i'll do is to get a real comfort and then ask for the number. Don't get too away i'll come with other questions in a short time probably

I've read your blog writing of building comfort that was very good thank tyou agai n and be ready for my further questions

Glad it helped.

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Wassup J,

Here's my situation. There's this girl I know, through mutual friends. We went to the same high school, hung out at the same places with the same friends a few times. We're on good terms. Used to text a little bit and what not. I've been hitting her up on myspace lately. I think she's going through some rough times with an ex or something, she always seems kinda down. So I say things to cheer her up. She's a solid HB7. I got her number online using what I'd think is some C/F lilnes. " I don't tell girls that look like you this that often, but smoething about you is special, I think we should have text." "Your not a virgin right?" "Cuz having text is a big committment with me =]" Things lilke that. Anyway, we havent really talked in a while and I want to game her. Not necessarily in hopes of full closing her, but if it happens it happens. She seems like a good relationship type person. But I ain't against the F close.


Is there a certain way I should approach this? Certain tack ticks? I'm fairly newbish and trying to get the just of the game and apply it to what I have naturally, sweet talking skills. Any and all help would be much appreciated!

Thanks man.

Well, since you have a number the Online Portion of the game has pretty much ended I guess. You definitely have some situational rapport and perhaps even some attraction. We need to keep the attraction heat on if she's going through rocky times, that way we don't end up a friend.

Basically, the only goal here since you have a # is to get on a date. Kino, build attraction, and gain a "connection" with her. Make it clear you're interested in her. There aren't really any tricks.

If you feel you have a good amount of comfort with her and a good connection with her identifying with "who you are" then ask for the date. If you can't immediately answer yes to that then use the phone calls or text as a tool to get that, then ask for the date. From there have fun!

Hope this helps out!

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GUYS,

I'm heading to Vegas this weekend with my girlfriend, leaving on Sunday morning. I am really stoked about the trip and hope to get some time playing poker and my other favorite past-time being in the club.

Looks like I'm just going to miss Sinn, Mehow, El Topo, Hypnotica, and others as they do their 10 Second Attraction workshop the following weekend as I get back on Thursday the 5th.

If anyone is in Vegas, I'm at the Bellagio just holler for me.

I probably won't have my laptop with me. When I return I'll be answering all the posts you guys put on here.

TTYL,

~Jon~

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Coo thanks man. I think I might need to build up a little more comfort, or reassure her that I'm harmless or something. Have fun in Vegas!

I'd be tough to have a bad time in Vegas.

Definitely do that. Remember a lot of guys think of building comfort as talking about casual things like friends, family, sports, favorite things, etc. You have to go a step further to talk in depth about these things and how you feel about them. Likewise hearing her talk about similar things.

But then going a step further to identify with her on some level. Telling her how you felt similar in a certain situation and vice versa. That way you build a "connection" to her and not just chit chat. Once you have a few of those getting the date will be easy.

For extra tips check out my blog I just posted about this the other day.

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For sure, im actually in the middle of texting her right now. I think it's going pretty well. The comfort jumped right back to where it was before so I think I'm good. I just pulled a, you text me back soo quick..you must really like me ;]. Waiting to see how that goes.

Hope it went well man. I'll talk to you guys when I return.

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