| Ok, I already mentioned how I got here.
Now, I would first like to ask for your opinions on how I've been handling the kind of situations (or rather, lack thereof) a recovering AFC like myself still gets himself in.
I do have a bad habit with the phone number thing. And I'll give a couple of examples on that one.
Last time I arrived to Brussels, back from my holidays back home, I thought I noticed a brunette on the plane looking at me, but wasn't sure, so ended up not checking a second time. After we landed, and while we were all going to get the luggage (it's a pretty long walk in the Brussels airport), I noticed this same girl coming along with a girlfriend of hers, not too far behind me. As I looked again and again, I saw her possibly commenting with her friend, until at the last staircase, she was obviously giggling a lot, and finally came up to me. "Oh, we're not following you!", she said. A pretty good opener, if you ask me. I followed suit, and asked if she was belgian or not.
We talked for a good while about the few upcoming summer rock festivals left, and when I was to leave, I asked if she would like to have my phone number (yes, I know, my bad), to which she replied "And would you like to have MY number?", followed by a hesitation, "wait, I'll give you my email, oh heck, I'll just give you my number then". Despite my wrong ways, we exchanged phone numbers.
But my worst mistake was that when I contacted her, I gave her my email via SMS, to which a week later she replied me with her own email, which "she hardly ever checks", and on another occasion, when I asked if she would show up at this festival I was going to, she gave "family business" excuses and claimed to be busy during the month.
Is this a lost case? What could I do via phone to remedy the situation?
Not too long after this, I met another girl at this local small pub. With this one, it went pretty bad. I started dancing next to her (not paying too much attention), until I noticed how she moved her stuff next to my coat. Somehow, I can't explain it, but I could almost read a IOI from the way she dancing next to me. I took my chances, after half an hour dancing and talking, I tried kino, but she still had some defenses up. Later on, she and her friends were about to leave (her friends were actually friendly to me), and I tried giving her my number, and then, because I was drunk enough to be unsure about my own phone number, I still went after her and got hers. I called the next day and she was quite polite, telling me we would likely meet up next time she came to Belgium. I insisted on meeting before she leaves, using the "why settle with depressive goodbyes to old friends, isn't it a lot more uplifting to meet new ones?" to which she just nodded with "we'll arrange later". Needless to say, I sheepishly called her again a few fays later and she just hung up on me! You can't get a stronger rejection than that.
Tonight, I stopped by on the same pub where I first met her on my own, and was surprised to see her there. I'm positive she saw me and pretended not to recognize me (as I did her). Now, here's the one thing I'm sure I did right: I finished my drink and asked another one, danced on my own, smiled, was friendly to just about everybody in the place and both ignored and forgot about her. Instead of letting frustration get over me, I kept my cool, minding my own business having fun, and possibly gained a little bit of social approval in the process. Eventually, she left the place before me, so she didn't get the satisfaction of seeing me "running away" either.
Sorry for the long post, guys, but I just have these mixed situations of "rights" and "wrongs", and sometimes have trouble seeing the whole picture. Sometimes I really feel the right attitude, but others I go back to the complete AFC I'm trying to leave behind.
So, is there any way to get the first HB I mentioned back on game? What am I missing?
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