| I don’t know what it is, but I’d say this is one of my most powerful components for success in picking up women.
Traditional methods advocate mostly the opposite of complimenting, in terms of value. You don’t want to put the girl on a pedestal, you don’t want to raise her value relative to yours, you don’t want to be a typical AFC et cetera.
It was a while back when I wasn’t happy that my method of picking up wasn’t perfectly congruent with who I am – I love girls and people and I love complimenting people because it makes everyone happier, even the penguins and the butterflies in Denmark, and I tended to save complimenting (or qualifying, more broadly) until a while into the sarge.
Now, I just do it when the hell I feel like it, and it works SO DAMN WELL. I swear I can get a girl attracted to me oftentimes JUST by complimenting her. So I’m going to break down how to effectively compliment, because this is great. You can pick up women by being genuine and making them happy right off the bat.
1. WHAT to compliment
2. HOW to compliment
3. WHEN to compliment.
1. WHAT.
First off, as always, don’t compliment something the girl has no control
over, i.e. her natural looks. “you’re hot” is no man’s land (however, I’ve never field-tested this or heard anyone field test this, so if you have I’d be very interested to hear from you).
Thus, compliment her on what she’s wearing, or how she’s styled her hair. Surprisingly, these work BETTER than if you compliment her on her personality (for most girls). I don’t exactly know why this is, but this has been distinctly true for me when empirically tested. I think it’s a girl thing. Complimenting an aspect of her personality is still a great thing to do and very effective. I don’t know, but when complimenting her personality she seems to really like it but find it awkward afterwards, because it’s difficult for her to relate to (even though it’s her own personality, yes, because she doesn’t think of it that way).
Now here is the key, the real secret. You don’t compliment something you find worth complimenting. You compliment something THE GIRL think is worth complimenting. Girls have ‘off’ days where they got up late and don’t look so good. I point this out and they graciously agree. Sometimes though, I find the ‘messed up hair’ effect attractive, and if I point that out, THEY DO NOT TAKE IT WELL. However if she made a particular effort to her hair, or wore new earrings and I point that out, BANG, she loves me, she tells me I’m charming. This is so so so powerful, if you take one thing away from this article, take that.
A quick tip is proceed with caution when complimenting her hair if it is 'up', i.e. tied at the back. Especially if there is that little 'puff' at the front just above her forehead which she has clipped back. To this day I still haevn't figured out why, but most girls wear this hairstyle when they haven't washed their hair or woke up late or something. When they wear their hair down it's a green light. Especially if they have curled or straightened it. Spotting this will come with experience.
2. HOW.
Be a freakin man about it. That’s the main thing. If you’re going to raise her value, show her that you’re a goddamn man not to care that you are raising her value, and that you are complimenting her because you are man enough to be genuine, honest and appreciative. Don’t wait until the conversation seems right, don’t wait until the time is good, if you notice it, just say it. Stop the conversation if you have to. Here is a recent example and the sole reason why HB8 is attracted to me. She is a friend of my wing (who now has a gf) and I didn’t really know her a couple of weeks ago. The 3 of us were at a computer, with wing in the middle. I realize that HB8 has styled a fringe, something unusual for her. So:
Rafiel: (rocking back on chair) “Hey Harriet.” (Relaxed, slight smile expression.)
Harriet: (slightly rocking back to see me) “Hmm?”
Rafiel: “Your uh, hair looks really nice today. I like the fringe.”
Harriet: “Awww thanks I want to fuck you.”
Ok she didn’t say I want to fuck you but you get the idea. So:
-Be a man and say it.
-Say it naturally.
-Say it, and give a reason.
When you compliment, always give a reason. You don’t have to say “I like x because of y”, but in my example the reason was her fringe.
3. WHEN
WHENEVER YOU FUCKING WANT because you’re a natural and you’re a man. Obviously there are situations when you really shouldn’t, for example HB9.5 with a bitch attitude who values herself through the roof. But you never know, most guys might try to play the ‘I’m going to pretend you’re not really that hot’ game with her and so you being genuine might work. The key is not the fact that you’re saying it, but how you say it. Maintain your frame, be natural, positive and strong. Be a man about it.
Really, I strongly recommend those of you who constantly tease and neg to actually try complimenting. If you don’t appreciate women and don’t notice things you like about them, then don’t do it just as another ‘technique’. But if you like something about a girl, now you can say it to them AND it will be beneficial to you picking them up =)
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