| I've actually spent time recently working on my "gaze". Just like other body language, your eyes play an important role in how people view you.
I started working on my gaze because my natural look almost makes it appear that I'm bored, or too laidback, sometime mad or intimidating, which I am not.
Your rearview mirror is a great way to practice, becaue you can make it so you can only see your eyes. I worked on forming my eyes into different "feelings". Mad, surprised, happy, laughing, intimidating...taking notes about what each looks like.
True to God story...Tuesday of this week I went to Borders to try a few techniques. When I walked in, I saw two HBs (5, 7.5). They noticed me walking in. I concentrated on my "cool look" (laid back, just at the book store look) as I walked in. The three of us caught eyes for a moment, and I continued to walk past them.
Not 2 minutes later, both came walking by me as I was checking out books on scuba diving. They passed me, and a moment later came back by for a second time. Seeing two IOI's, I put the book down, and set course to intercept their path.
As the two HB's walked past me, I stopped, and gave the second girl (HB7.5) my intense/focused look...what seemed like 5 minutes was actually 2-3 seconds...SHE STOPPED DEAD IN HER TRACKS, SMILED, SAID HI, AND INTRODUCED HERSELF!!!!
I have never had this happen to me in my life, and this was my first time trying in public. I was so damn shocked that I just started giggling...I had to walk away.
I'm going to continue honing this skill!!
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