Heya guys,
I've got to a fairly advanced stage in the game only to be destroyed by anxiety. Its not like I'm having panic attacks, but it's like wearing a pair of lead shoes in a marathon. I really need to do the mental gymnastics, because even if I'm not picking up I have fun with it.
Basically I'm wondering if anyone knows any ways to getting the mind to relax as near to permanently as possible without the use of drugs.
The thing is, the game can be simplified into three rules
Be Excellent
Be Desireless
Be Gone (or independant. Doesn't have the same ring to it otherwise)
And I can't pull off the first one if I'm not chilled. All help is much appreciated

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At some point in a PUA-career evryone reaches the point where they realise " chill , what does it matter anyway. "

Some do this by taking the focus of "getting the girl" and just try to enjoy themselves. However sometimes this isnt enough.

All i can say is hang in there , eventually it wil dawn on u. For me it happned in this park-party (dont ask ) a couple of years ago. There was this 10 with a bitch shield the size of a small planet. I got blown out of the water under 5 minutes, and yeah i felt bad, had anxiety spiking like hell. Then she turns around and i see that she had sat down on a hamburger or something , with ketchup on her dress , a little pickle sticking to her bum. Hilarious , at that point something just gave away ...
I never been afraid to aproach or keep my cool since.

So just hang in there , try and try again ... and in the end u will realise that the game , is just that.

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Never let failure get the best of your creativity !

try to erase bad thoughts like "she will be a bitch to me, she will not like me" out of your head.
You have to replace them with positive ones like "she will be flirting with me"

Its your inner voices which makes you feel negative/makes you get anxiety so just replace this negative voice with a positive one!

At a certain point of your game it will then happen automatically. Till this point just monitor yourself and do it!

Nighthawk

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I must agree with keruli, you just get that feeling as if you dont care what the outcome is. ( to an extent )

I forced myself to approach a girl that clearly had a bf with her.
her one friend was screaming at me to fuck off. while i just got pushed out of the set by the guy.
to be honest it doesnt feel as bad as you think.
i felt really good to be honest.
haha take the bullet to the dome and get it over with.

What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.

And damn it, that story with the hamburger above just did it for me. FLMAO!

Just remember, this is your reality your living. She's just a character in it. Your the main role. You live your reality. Shit happens. But good shit happens too. Increase your chances of good shit. (I know, oxymoronic)

Follow the 3second rule and you'll be aight.