Today I suffered severe AA. Not that this is totally new. I just feel real stupid asking someone a question. Today it was with a girl who works in a shop in my local shopping centre. I fancy her a lot but have never made contact of any kind with her.
What I am here to ask is, what way is most suitable and comfortable for overcoming this problem and I'll admit this may become oneitus eventually but can I still chat to her since we never have talked or anything. Actually I'm more inclined to avoid her as I feel more secure which is wrong. Any advice on defeating this AA quickly?

Thanks,
Tav

Think that good things will happen when you go talking to her. Go with attitude that she is just a little girl who is sooooooooo silly that you make fun of her (tease)

Yea, I guess, mainly don't go for an outcome, go with the mindset that she is a little girl

But how do I gain the confidence when deep inside I'm terrified and worrying my mind will go blank. Thanks for your help Turboorav. How do I act Alpha when I worry about her thinking 'why is he asking me and not another woman'?

God I feel so silly.
Any body language books people recommend? Is speech training a good idea?

Speech training is good, it will create a memory into ur brain like u would have done this thing before.

Your mind is worrying because you think that she will reject you. But when you think that she will be happy that you started the conversation then the fear goes away also. Fill your head with happy thoughts not bad thoughts.

Body language should be totally relaxed. Just every time when you get nervous try to slow the world down...It seems silly but just make your movements more slow and observe the world more. When you think on the things that may happen or what have happened before, you are not living in the present. When you live in the present then you have no anxiety also.

Don't worry what she is thinking. If she asks: "why do you ask from me?" Then answer: "Why not you?"

Good luck

Thanks man. Only realised now this should be in the other thread but anyway. Gonna do what xfman suggests also. Go out and talk to everyone for a few mins.

Go around in the mall and ask everyone you pass "Hi, how are you?"

Do this once - you'll feel like an idiot
Do this 10 times - you'll feel comfortable
Do this 20 times - you'll want more

Hell, you might even hook a set or two.

Thats a very good idea. Thanks Jade.

Today I went to the park for a quarter of an hour and said hi to over ten people. I know nobody here cares or that that amount for saying a simple hi is difficult but it did make me realise something. Few people acknowledge each other on the street these days. Only four people said hi back. It was a good idea. As for your suggestion Jade I will do that next week. Just wanna start off with hi and not feel like an idiot then began a conversation when that has been achieved.

Thanks lads

Isn't that the truth. I remember a few years ago how just walking down the street alot of people would say hi or wave ect...

Now people are very quiet; like the life has been sucked outa the world an there just sheep doing a daily routine with no emotion left.

I want to be that guy who puts all that lost and fogetten emotion back in there life, be remembered, and love every mintue of it in the process.