I have been gaming this girl - 8 who I met through my friends at college. Based on her body language and IOI's I feel as though I have successfully attracted her, especially considering a mutual friend told me he heard she was interested. I invited her to a house party I had last weekend and she came, said she wasn't feeling well but still stayed for a few hours, chatting it up with me and giving me an opportunity for DHV, stories, kino, and comfort building. Last week I told her to come grab some food and go bowling with me, my roomate and his girlfriend. She decided to meet us there since she did not want me to have to drive all the way out to pick her up (15 mins beyond food). Dinner went great, but on the way to bowling, she got a phone call that her grandmother had passed away. She pulled over out of shock and cried for a bit, while i comforted her a bit, not really knowing what to say. I told her I would catch a ride back with my friends so she could take care of everything, assuming she would head home to continue the convo with her family members. I called her that night to make sure she was doing alright and got home safely. The next day I called to check up on her and she didnt answer. I left no message and she never called me back. It has only been 3 days, but I am not sure what to do from here. I realized if I was interested in a girl, I wouldn't call her and want her to be my emotional tampon so I assume she is behaving similarly. How long should I wait before calling her or texting her? I was thinking about txting her tomorrow to ask her how she is doing and then possibly set up a time to meet later in the week (Thursday?)... I did not want to rush her when she has a lot going on, but I also think this could be an opportunity to make sure she gets her mind off her grandma by telling her its not an option for her to come out with me... big alpha points... Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks

Forget trying to be alpha in this situation. Act like a sympathetic human being. "Hey, it's me, if you need anything let me know."

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Yea, I told her that the first time I called, I figured I shouldn't keep telling her it over and over, especially when she didn't return my call.

Just let her go, man. Pick up another one.

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Unfortunate turn of events i would wait a week...when you do text her again make laugh right away then go straight to sentimental, this will cheer her up and then after that just do what you would do if it was one of your friends you were talking too.

Yeah if she was close to her grandmother (it sounds that way), give her the space she needs but I'd gently remind her that you're still there. Once a week is good, like Blacksheep said.