in a way, i think it's good to have high standards so that you don't just fall in love with any random girl. but i have high standards and sometimes even if i get ioi's from HBs i dont close because they're just not my type.
what do you guys think, is it a good idea to have high standards ?

High standards is one of the big reasons that got me in the PUA community, I mean that's why we learn all this stuff, so we get the power to choose. If I'm gaming a really hot girl I don't care how hot she is if I don't like her personality I can't carry on the conversation, I'm gonna leave.
However, if you are at a club and you can't find a at least one attractive girl with a good personality you might be too picky, there is a thin line I guess.

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Having high standards is good, however, you should still be gaming the lower HB's to improve your game and social circle, just make sure you state your intent and not escalate sexually.

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WTF are high standards? Just go for the girls you want.

Yeah, high standards are definitely good. And face it, you have them whether you like it or not. This will also remind you that you're not a garbage man who will go for anything. Plus, use this to your advantage. Tell girls about your high standards and they will be flattered that they are talking with you.

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that's interesting, i'll give it a try

High standards are good, I feel that discussing them is DHV and as backdoor said it's gonna make the girls you're chatting up feel good.

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I've always had high standards, and its what has gotten the girl i'm currently with. Everyone i know says she's hot, but it took those comments to convince me she's hot. Most guys see her as a 10, but i saw all the flaws, and lowered her value. Sounds awkward i know, but i'm one of those guys that enters a club and not find any girls super hot. I found this awkward, so I did some research into girls i thought were hot, celebrities mainly. I looked into how they look in pictures captured of them, not hte air-brushed magazine ones, but the candid ones. Some they look just as hot, but other pictures i thought they were ugly, then i pretty much realized my standards were just not too high, but very unrealistic. I still have a high standard, but its a more realistic standard.

Like i said having hte high standards, has helped, rarely am i ever nervous talking to a girl. Like when i met my girl, but i think that standard made me pass up a whole of beautiful girls.

Just my 2 cents

Having high standards seems like it could help your frame.

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Ok guys, I'm not going to be an asshole keyboard jockey who pretends to have game. I'm a virgin, weight my ideas/advice accordingly.

HAVING HIGH standards is good and natural it self. animals and humans are similar we both have the same nature, mate make babies and die, its in our nature as long as theres passed down from generations of evolution and survival of the fittest. we are supose to look for the best mate as possible aka someone in our standards?

high standards is good

unless you want ugly, defected babies?

if u can name 2 ugly parents with a hot kid plz link me up

I was thinking of a way to measure how high your own standards are, and I came up with this.

If you measure/rate a girl out of ten, and ten being the best, and 1 being the worst. Now you take any girl you feel is a 10 (i personally only rate girl as high as a 9, nobody is perfect in this world), now rate the girls you feel are 9's, and 8's, and so forth. Now look at the range in your rating scale, which of those girls could you approach with extreme confidence.

**Confidence is defined as a feeling of assurance, especially of self-assurance. Self assurance is the freedom from doubt; belief in yourself and your abilities.

For me i could approach an 8 with extreme confidence.


On another note i believe i have natural high standards, i've always judged girls lower than most other guys. I always judge girls on more than just looks, depending on how they act, walk, carry themselves. And a 9 could turn into a quick 6 in a matter of minutes when you talk to them. And if they fall to that level i just lose interest quickly, and most of the time i walk away or work my way to another girl. Guys will come up after and say, she was hot, she looked interested, why did you walk away. Well simply put, she was a 6 in my eyes, and when there is a potential 7 or higher beside her why waste your time with a 6.


Just my two cents.

I think it is good to have high standards as everyone should have an ideal person that they want to be with. But I think people should have have a set of realistic standards as well. Because no person is ever going to meet every single thing you want in a person. For one it is nearly impossible to do. Two everyone has flaws. And lastly if you are not realistic about your standards you will be cutting off a lot of people you could have been friends with or had sex with.

^This.

And make sure you aren't confusing "having high standards" with approach anxiety. This might just be your ego fucking with you.

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My standards are as high as the sexiest girl i see in the club and steadily decline as the girls decline my penis until I find that one girl that gives me and my penis what I like to call "Sex Harmony". And then they stay at that level until i get ready for the next night and reset my standards to high again. 70% of the time it works everytime...

lol no it's not that. i should clarify. what i mean is that some very nice, down to earth girls give me ioi's, tell me to come hang out, etc. and i'm just kinda of a douche. i just ignore them and tell them i have plans. then when a hot girl who is really cool comes around i suddenly become free.