i recently started approaching and am very stress constantly
like everyone knows that i got rejected and am all like nervos talking too them is there any tips on how too get over what people might think or say to or about you?

thanks in advance

You can call me Alex, i've also felt the same way you do
for a long time ago.

What really happened in our minds is that, we had gotten rejected
quite some times when we were "naturals", we did not know any
thing about pickup, we would just go to some girl and talk about anything
without having a cue about what we're doing..

So up until the day you found out about the community, you realised what
you were doing right and wrong, so you decided to give it a try with your
new skills in social interraction....

The problem is...that..let's say before learning about pickup...
you had tried to do something with 20 girls in your life...
from these you screwed up with 18..so the ratio is generaly speaking
bad..because when now you're going to the field...

your mind thinks: well i want to pick up...
how did i do previously...well.. not so good...
from the 20 girls i approached..i've only gotten 2 numbers..
what are the possibilities to get a number in the next set?
that's the bad thing about it...your mind tries to convince you
that your possibilities of going well in your next set are very bad
because of the history of your pickups...

but your mind doesn't take account the new material you have in your
mind, your mind doesn't take account how successful
are these openers..these stuff that you can use and perform a natural
conversation with a woman, your mind tries to rely on possibilities...

what's worse, is that when you're at the venue, where there are women,
or whatever, and you see women, your mind will try to find excuses
in order NOT to approach these women because of your bad
success/failure ratio in pickup untill now..

for example, if you took the decision to go to a club to try your pickup
skills...when you'll enter the club...you may want to go to the bathroom first,and then come back and start sarging..but that's not really you
it's just your mind that's playing with possibilities,
and wants you to keep you safe from failing,
BUT KEEPING YOU SAFE FROM FAILING,
KEEPS YOU ALSO AWAY FROM SUCCEEDING WITH WOMEN...

man,,this is such a dead-end location..

In order to manage to get out of this zone you have to push
yourself to the limit...
find a buddy of yours..give him 50 bucks and tell him for each approach
you'll do he'll give you 5 bucks back...

You have to motivate your mind into passing this
"NO FAILURE-NO SUCCEEDING" strategy
and going to the
LESS FAILURE-MORE SUCCEEDING..

You don't actually have to go out 4-5-6 nights a week out to pickup...
tell yourself you'll go out 2 days a week...
but when i'll go out these days...i'll make it worth it..
do you understand me?

hope i helped, good luck pal!

You could just learn how to be a self-validating person instead of a guy who relies on the validation of others to determine his self worth.

Not only is self-validation important for dealing with AA and rejection, it is actually a vital component in becoming a real natural.

Also keep in mind that when you get rejected on an approach, it isn't you who is being rejected, its your approach.

i think that the more you get rejected the less it affects you because iv been rejected many times in my life and now im more comfortable with opening because i know what the worst thing that can happen is. the way for you to get over this hump i think is to go out and fuck up really bad and wake up the next day and realize that your still alive and your friends dont hate you and then if you want to get even more comfortable go out to what ever big club you were at and try to find the girls that rejected you and you probably will not be able to. I have fucked up many sets in my life and out of the 200 or so that i have messed up i have mabey seen 2 of the girls again somewhere

Its crazy that were wired that way that we get all scared about what people think and were probably never going to see them again (this is if you go to big clubs not dive bars because dive bars often have regulars)

If you want to put things into better perspective think about the fact that their are 2.something billion girls in the world and there are more turing 18 every year so if you dont do good this week but you learn to be a little better then their will be more girls who just became available next week not to mention the fact that it would be impossible to get rejected by a million girls and thats only like 1/130th of the amount of wemon out their

also iv herd of people going out to try and get rejected because if it your goal then your brain processes the information differently and it dosnt seem to hurt as bad and if you get rejected you accomplished your goal and if you dont get rejected then your talking to some attractive girls

Work on your self esteem. Putting that cocky/funny aura out will look like bullshit, if you don't believe it yourself.

So believe it yourself. And to believe it yourself it's gotta be real. Do you feel like a wimp? Start working out. Do you think you dress like shit? Dress better, get help if needed. Feel like a loser, be a winner! ANy guy can improve himself and be ready for the game.

I wouldn't even try PUA stuff till I really thought I was the FREAKIN DUDE. I'll betcha that every single guy who saids this stuff doesn't work, the reason why it doesn't work is because they don't really believe in themselves that much. WOmen see in IMMEDIATELLY.

And guess what, once you're the freaking dude, rejection is no problem. Rejection don't mean shit to the Dude cause the Dude's got shit to do.