Here's a simple concept:
The more you hang out with cool people, the cooler you get.

Except you're missing one thing.

I feel like lifestyle is key when becoming a natural.
It's hard to naturally know how to pick up chicks when my lifestyle consists of Warcraft, TV, and school.
This is what it used to be 3 years ago.
Then I started a band.
We were the coolest kids in the school, my fashion changed, my social circle changed from videogame nerds to skateboarders and jocks.
I played football freshmen year, by then I was always going out with the 'cool crowd'. I was in, I got a few kisses from HBs, etc.

I was on my way to becoming a natural, I still had tons of sticking points which I don't have anymore such as inner game problems, body language, vocal tonality, eye contact, being an alpha, and the list goes on.
But hey, I was still able to k-close HBs right? (or so I thought this was all there was to life)

Then one day I came in with a case of red eye, I was on bad terms with the principle, I get kicked out. (I know,,, it's BS)

I move, I find PUA, I change everything about myself. Then I look back, realize I control my own life now and that I don't need to do certain things to be 'cool', I mature.
My lifestyle isn't great though. New cities means new social circle.

After a couple of months, I am continuing my path to natural game with two things:
Lifestyle
Self Control

So here's how I see it.
You need to be an alpha, become mature and take control of your life, don't let anyone else fuck with it.

But how can you be an alpha if your lifestyle absolutely blows? Here you are learning all this stuff from the community, but you're not living an alpha LIFESTYLE.

Naturals are alpha males who live the lifestyle they want.

Tell me what you think,
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Its a nice concept, but there is more to it.
Alpha male does = game and lifestyle doesnt = value
There are lots of other things to it, inner game for one.

Work on looking into other things that are important, sub catagories of being alpha and what makes a great lifestyle and you will see there are many more aspects.

Madals

I think that the alpha concept is a little bit misunderstood. Don't get me wrong, I think your post make a lot of sense. But, I just want to say this, I am in total control of my on life, don't take crap from anyone, I'm doin quite good in my game at the moment, but I don't consider myself an alpha. An alpha is a leader, the leader of the pack if you want to put it that way. Personally I don't think that every PUA need to strive after becoming an alpha male in order to be a good PUA. Thats just my oppinion, I might be totally off.

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An alpha doesnt have the be a leader 100% of the time, this is a misconception in my opinion. Its the ability to take the lead/control of the group whenever you deem it neeeded.
I personally consider someone who always tries to boss people around and be in control 100% as insecrure. This may seem odd at first glance but its because they are affraid that if they let other people give input they will lose their status, therefore, I think those sort of people dont beleive they deserve that level of power.
Madals

Well if your lifestyle included many DHVs, then wouldn't it = value?
And inner game can also be built naturally BY living a good lifestyle where you control your life and you have all these things the contribute to you feeling good and feel in control of yourself.
I think for naturals, their confidence and inner game comes from the lifestyle they built themselves into, along with being able to be an alpha and take control of their lives. So with those two things, wouldn't everything else be included in the package?

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In terms of being an alpha a common misconception is the fact you have to lead 100% of the time but in fact the subtelty is that you dont have to lead 100% of the time a true alpha knows when to lead and when not to.

ever been around someone hwos always trying to lead? they come off as bossy and shows more of a weakness and a lack of confidence

so odnt get caught up with trying to lead as i did when i first wa sifting through how to be alpha know that sometimes its o.k to let someone else lead but do when it counts.

I agree 100%.

When I was in the Army (infantry of all things), the people you WANT to follow are the ones who can listen to input. They know they don't know everything, but they're willing to listen to their subordinates' input from prior experience and/or training. If that input isn't sufficent to get the job done, they go with their own instincts.

I'm alive because I had the opportunity to CHOOSE who I was led by. Some people I knew were not so fortunate, and the team leader accidentally got shot by his own. (pending investigation... 5 years later)



Apply that to being a PUA... your buddy wants to go to some bar because he's had prior experience there that leads him to believe that it's THE place to meet girls, and more importantly, TO HAVE A FUN TIME. You judge this experience based on your own and make a judgement call. You say, 'sure, let's check it out' or you say, 'i know an even better place, let's go'.

THAT'S being alpha, IMHO.