While I have never been in a dating relationship, I have experienced all sorts of bizarre oddities that I cannot fully explain; additionally these experiences have caused much frustration and make me more "aware" of womanese - I won't believe something until it actually happens. However, I believe a girl I have met and will be seeing next week is a different story - this one could very well work.

When she texted me the night before our supposed date telling me she was sick and we'll talk the next day to see how she feels, I assumed I was getting flaked on yet again. When I called the next day though...she really was sick, so nope I wasn't flaked (I later learned I was her wake up call that day, but she didn't tell me that at the time). A couple days later, we spoke again and I realized if things go well, I may be dating a keeper. We did set up a date for next week (just a coffee one, she likes coffee lol), but there were some interesting things:
-She must have ESP or something, because when I was imitating her sick voice (she was cracking up laughing), she said she would absolutely not "flake" on me and thinks its uncool when that situation happens with people. I'm thinking she said this b/c we were talking about her being sick and she knows she coincidentally texted me "the night before."
-Later on, I was telling her a story from an internship I had last summer and made a reference to a major TV personality. She pretended to not know who he was, of course I fell for it and started negging her about it, leading her to laugh a bit and say, "Of course I know who he is; I just enjoy watching your reaction b/c I knew you'd react that way Laughing ."
-I have never established rapport like this with a girl before - ever. We seem to be in sync on a lot of things, and we can talk for awhile without things getting stale. I can comfortably be myself around her, she likes to use some C+F too, and she seemingly has great character; I feel I can trust her.
So my question to you guys...even before the first date, just from talking and getting to know one another, have you ever had a hunch that a relationship was going to work?

Keeping this in mind, as you know, two weeks from today is Valentine's Day. My school has an extra day off b/c of the holiday weekend. As of now, I planned on going back home that weekend just to see family and a few friends back home. However, if this date goes really well next week, what's my gameplan? I'd essentially be missing Valentine's Day. I believe the best thing to do is bump V-Day up to sometime before I leave and have a really fun date that evening.

Your answers here will really help.

The first issue is more of a "is it possible to experience this" sorta thing, the second issue is the more pressing concern. Do you guys have any words of advice?

I hate to "bump" this thread, but I'm hoping SOMEONE can offer some thoughtful advice here. I'm not relationship-saavy by any means and any advice would really help.

Hello man, I like this topic, it makes me remember the way I met my actual gf.

You wrote:
"So my question to you guys...even before the first date, just from talking and getting to know one another, have you ever had a hunch that a relationship was going to work?" That has happened to me only once, with my actual gf, and damn I was right. If you can see yourself with this girl, she might be thinking the same, and probably you both are right.


If theres something I learned in relationships or pre-relationships is this: BE HONEST. And dont be afraid of saying what you are thinking. Ill explain it in a more detailed way:

If yo think she is beautiful, TELL HER. If you think you should bump v-day, TELL HER. If you think you have raport with her, TELL HER. Telling her what you think and sharing opinions is the best thing you can do in a relationship, because it makes communication a LOT EASIER. The same happens in sex. Why noy telling her what do you like in sex? Why not ask her what SHE likes? And then DO IT? ITs a lot better and fast, instead of "guessing" a lot of things. And if you say you have good raport with her, damn man, that is awesome. Much better!.

Communication in a relationship is KEY for most things:

-Jelousness
-Anger
-Happyness
-Sex
-Affection
-Love

and I could go on for ever...

For example I have an incredible communication with my gf. If we are at a party and its fucking boring, I just look at her, and she will say to me: "You are bored...ok we'll leave in 10 more minutes (K)"

Being honest is the best way to test girls. For example: "Hey Im out of money...wanna go and chat for a while at the park?" analyze her reaction after something like that. It doesent matter if you have or you dont have money. If she accept, she is a good person. She likes YOU, and not your pocket. If she passes tests like these, then you should ask her to be your gf. Later, you tell her that you tested her, and that she passed all the tests. Thats being honest. But a delayed honesty . Girls test guys... why not test girls? We all should. You probably didnt do that with your ex gf. Take a month aproximately and test her. i use my testing method everytime I meet a girl Im interested In a serious relationship with.

Man, you are lucky, dont let go this girl. These are the type of girls that are hard to find these days. Girls with no psyco problems, honest, simple, happy, funny.

My advice: Tell her what you think. Be honest. And If you are capable of adding some humour to that, man, you will have a great time with her being her boyfriend, and maybe more than that someday...

I hope That helps. See you!

Thanks SeekNDestroy.

Being honest is definitely a good tip. However, I might want to shy away from being COMPLETELY honest until I have a few dates under my belt. While I freely express my thoughts about a lot of things (leading some to believe I say the first thing that comes to my head), I become more hidden with what I'm thinking when it comes to throwing someone under the bus or really criticizing someone. I was raised to take the high road on these things, so I guess that's what I'm used to. This also goes for things I'm a little insecure about...I won't release them right into the open, but I could dance around it if need be.

We seem to have good rapport so far, but the (expected) date this week should reveal if it's meant to be in that department. We only really know each other from talking during and after classes. I guess it's a good sign if she's seen my share of bad jokes, dumber moments and other bloopers and still considers hanging out with me.

As for the second part of the thread...let's say the first date goes well. The following week is Valentine's Day but I may not be around then. I am considering moving V-Day up for a day when I am around. It would only be a 2nd date I'd think, so what's the best way to go about things here?

Of course there is no need to rush. Tell her what you think once you know her well enough, and you have mutual confidence. Now, about the v-day thing, I dont understand your question. I think you should just tell her you would like to spend v-day with her, but you cant. And that you would like to move it. Thats all.