I’ve been seeing this girl for about 4 months now. We aren’t in a real relationship but I know she likes me more than a friend. She always seems really happy to see me, runs up gives me hugs whenever we haven’t seen each other in a while. We hang out a good bit but it never escalates into anything physical. She’s very reserved about that, plus I have never really hung out where alcohol was involved. I know its no excuse but for me at least it’s a really good confidence builder. The thing is she’s been flaking out on me recently. Couple of days ago I invited her to hang out play some drinking games with me and my friends. She never responded to the invite, so I texted her again that night to see where she was and what she was doing and all that and that she should come over. She told me that she was way too drunk to go anywhere else and that we should hang out the next day, so I told her what I was doing the next day and invited her, she said she was doing something else and that I should come. I never really gave a direct answer about it. Later that night she texted me at 4:30am to see if I was still up, i was passed out by then and never responded. So in the afternoon she texted me saying how sorry she was that she texted me at 4:30 in the morning. I told her it wasn’t a big deal and that it was pretty funny. Then later on that day I sent her another message saying that I was sorry that I couldn’t hang out with her that day cuz I was doing this other thing and she responded that it was ok and that she forgot that she even invited me at all and that it was really an exclusive event and that I wouldn’t have been able to come anyway. So that was kinda of bithchy of her to say, at least I think so. So today invited her to do something else and she flaked and never came. I’ not really sure what to do now, should I not talk to her or invite her anywhere for a bit “freeze her out” or what do you all think?

Another thing, there is a university club event that is coming up this weekend at my school. We’re are basically camping out in the woods and drinking all night. Excellent event to hook up. So the problem is i know that she as well as this other girl that I’ve been gaming for bit now are going. Now I’m not really sure whom I should go after during that night. I’m somewhat mad at the original girl and I really want to make her jealous and go after the other girl but at the same time I really don’t want to be a dick plus I like this girl a lot and I don’t want to ruing my chance with her. But on the other hand I’m starting to like the other girl as well and I know that I have a way bigger chance to go all the way with her than the original girl. So what should I do, should I just game both of them and see who bites harder?

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I'm def doing the freeze out. i deleted her number so i wont be tempted to ever text her. What ever happens happens, fuck it. I just feel like i had wasted four fucking months and barley made any progress thats what pisses me off. But yeah if I had to describe our situation I would have to say that we started off as friends knowing that both of us likes one another in more than a friend kinda way. First time we hung out alone she miss heard me saying something about me not liking her then she got all concerned about it. That day I tried moving in for a kiss but she rejected me, so since then I haven’t really had a good opportunity to move in again without feeling awkward about it. I also feel like I’m still carrying a grudge against her from that night. But other than that I do like her and she always says how happy she is that we’re friends. I started liking this girl a lot off the bat, thus I was afraid to lose her and moved really slow with her, and now I’m not moving anywhere. I got attached to fast too soon. Oh well i really don't want to waste anymore time.

I think you escalated too sharply, you went for the kiss too soon without properly kino escalating, look into better ways to kino escalate. 4 months is a long time and you did a newbie mistake! But I've been there, more or less, so you arnt alone in anything your experiencing. Re read my post, there was another option I gave you with the sms. You could’ve pushed a step forward, seen if it hookt, and calibrated off that. Either way nothing to get worried about, the feeling goes away, keep going out there more sets more women! Like i always say, a way to do anything is to go forward. At least you’ll be moving in a direction it cant be all that bad.

Whose fault is that? Just because she’s not ready to kiss you NOW doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to kiss you!

No if you felt it too when she did then at the beginning you got attached just right in just the right way.


Whats really the lesson in all of this? kino escalate properly, remember to keep her comfort levels in mind, and don't let things stretch out with time, act soon otherwise you loose the set. That’s it man! better luck next time!

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i think you need to stop being a little bitch

how bout you do somethign for me and bitch slap the wussy out of you..


dude! do what the hell you want ..... hit up on that other girl and make the orginal jealous and if she doesnt like it tough shit thats life......if your always gonna be worrying about how she feels and working around what she thinks you will get no where......your the man, not her....so do what you want and dont care about her....

and plus man stop texting her so much and freeze her out like you said your gonna do,.......she keeps flaking on you id say its about time to even the playign field and play at her level...


if she is flaking, and being rude dude! im stop bending backwords and taking it up the ass.....and instead get control of this situation.....id be hittin on the other girl and getting things going with that.......and let that orginal girl problem work itself out....if she gets mad at you and never wants to see you again well thats her lose you know???

cause why would you care bout any girls feelings when she is being bitchy to you and flaking hardcore.....

i say its time you stop caring just the same

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Wow, just reread my own posts...i was acting like a bitch...damn