| before i became active in the seduction community i had met a girl that was in a similar situation.
she liked me, but at the same time liked another, and yet still was not over the ex. she would come over before work and we would fool around...eventually she said she could not become physical with my anymore because she did not know what to do about the situation...
i became AFC, hung around with her too much, spoke to her too often, tried to hard to convince her i was the one. I backed out of the run for the romance position only to kick myself in the ass later.
What she was looking for was someone strong, to take charge, a non needy man not a AFC.
I learned from that mistake, i also lost that girl. Now in this situation, i make it apparent i could care less who she chooses, when out at the mall or anywhere with the girl i put her in the friend zone by making it not seem like a date, i approach other women, if she wants to go into a store, i tell her ill be in another one or a simple no. i never give her what she wants.
I am the one in charge, and if she wants to continue to be around me she will understand this. If she cant grasp it, after a fun time out, freeze her out. Let her come to you and wonder why you have not spoken. Then take charge again...rinse and repeat if needed, until she either chooses you, or you move on without her.
either way your balls never shrank, you gained more self confidence, and are on the road to more productive relationships.
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