Hey all,

I've been on an online bootcamp for natural inner game and am still struggling with AA. I've started tapping ( if you haven't heard of it, it is basically where you imagine the negative thought that normally races through your head and then tap certain spots on the body). All fears are based in the body and these spots are where all the nerves come. Have actually noticed a minor change.

But I've seen resources around like Stephane's chakras program, kundalini activator and mlf da babe by xtrememind, and also the approach confidence thing by puatraining. I'm well aware that no product will magically create the new me overnight but I'm looking for advice on which product would give me the best chance. I'm not a fan of the chakra one as it sounds too spiritual for me.

It's my new years resolution to overcome my AA.

Thanks heaps guys!

One thing of all we can't help just like that, you need to help yourself.

First, if you want to get a new mind set, start talking to yourself, and pushing yourself. For example, in school if you had a bad grade on a test, you will tell yourself to study better, and work harder to do better. This is the same concept in PUA understand your mistake, and approach each problem multiple ways before you find the one that works best. For example when I tried to chat online with girls, my conversations in the beginning never got good responses, I thought about it, even asked my sister, and tried something different each time until I got it right, now chatting online is easy. When that is the case move on to the next step.

Second, getting over AA is simple, yet few people realize what they need to do, you can read all day get all the tips you want. But it wont help your AA. To get over AA, just talk to girls, approach them, crash and burn, approach them crash and burn, and so on. That is the only way, get over AA is like asking. What is the best way to do my homework? ... Well, just do it.

Think about it this way, if you were a really good PUA, and you were assigned to kiss some girl in 10 minutes, well, I think at that point in time approaching would be the least of my worries

Also try this, go out with a friend, give him 100 dollars or euros or whatever. And he pays you back 10 dollars for each time you approach, if you don't approach your friend keeps 100 dollars.

Try reframing your AA:

Say to yourself "I could have AA when approaching, or I could go home feeling like an AFC because I didn't even have a go at it".

This sounds harsh, but effective: AA versus AoI (acceptance of inability)

I'd rather have AA any day, learn to welcome it, it's the same feeling you get when you take any calculated risk. Get addicted to the rush man, go with the flow. You'll be rockin' out in no time.

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Temptation Is The Mother Of All New Experiences.

The thing that helped me most with my inner game was a belief in myself.

Early on, I told myself I was confident, and that I wasn't afraid to approach women. The truth is, I was. I was scared and nervous. But I kept drilling in the idea that I was superior(that I was confident, attractive, funny, etc...), and eventually I started really believing it. When I believed it and dsiplayed it, other people around me started to believe it too, and from there, my confidence skyrocketed.

Today, after a lot of hard work and persistence, I'm able to say that I'm not faking anything. I'm sure there are people that think they have a better way, or that what I did wasn't the right way of going about it, but it worked for me and that's all that matters.

Pick whatever works for you and stick with it. It comes down to fundamental principles:
-work hard, persist
-aim high
-don't give up

Good luck

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New to the forums, not the game.

Workout or take up some hobby(that you really want to take part it). Can help build you up into a person, realizing life. Just notice a lot of people who work or have a goal and accomplish it often perceive life differently from that point on(success).

Sounds like your putting a few fears first in your head. Keep this in mind when it comes to females, they are nothing but a part of this world as you yourself are. They are not foreign, special, or aliens etc. your inexperience causes your fear and that of being a guy/fear of rejection. If you just go out there and do work, you will be enjoying yourself too much to resort to your nerves getting the best of you.

That and realize that said girl may be as anxious or excited as you are. Watch her, i bet any money you'll see some quirks because of nerves/anxiousness. Coming to the table like that with someone feelings are going to flare, just learn to not let them get the best of you..deal with them.