Met this girl (HB7) thru my roommates gf, she is fun but tough as nails and I had gotten her number before, but she was a total flake and obviously not nearly interested in me enough.

Last night was different. I was out with all my mates, so I was well drunk, and we bump into my roommates set at the bar. I get instant hug and recognition from the gf in front of her, as well as the cool handshake routine from my roommate (he's a cool ass black guy so it looks even better hahah) then I sit and say "Hey! You guys having an awesome night?"

She's like yeah whatever, smiling at least, so I just jump right into a conversation opener:

"Hey omg, I gotta ask you this question! Do you think its gay for me to take a pole dancing class? I totally just joined one, I think its going to be awesome!"

She laughs and is like, "What? Are you serious" but she is really smiling now..

So I go into my DHV story explaining how I joined because of my superhot exroommate (HB8.5) and her hot gf who teaches erotic dance being in the class, and how they didnt believe I would join but they totally wanted me to do it with them, so of course I am in now.

Then I tie it into another DHV story about how it fits with my new years resolution... you know how people always limit themselves? Stop smoking,stop drinking, lose weight, etc etc? Well I chose as my first new years resolution ever, to expand myself instead. Everytime I see something cool, instead of thinking "oh I wish I could do that," I am going to make a serious attempt to learn it instead. This includes all my past childhood hobbies that Ive dropped over the years as well, like painting and drawing, and even origami. I used to be crazy good at origami when I was eight! (perfect point to make her a paper rose if its that kind of place.)

So she is all ears and responds with something like, "Wow! You are so confident and creative! I wish I was more like that!"

I answer, "Hey everybody has special qualities, what are three special qualities that define you?"

Her: Oh I dont know... Im not that special...

Me: Bullshit, everybody is awesome somehow. Here, close your eyes, no peeking thats cheating! (she laughs) and think about it, concentrate on when you were just a happy kid, what are three things that really defined you then. They are still true now..

Her: That sounds hard...

Me: Come on! Its easy! Here, I will do it.. I close my eyes and say "Ok Im a happy little kid now, I am creative..*short pause* very outgoing and...*longer pause* full of love for all of my friends." Open eyes and smile at her. "See, easy peasy! Now you."

So she concentrates and comes up with three positive things and I reward her and call her a good girl, "see that wasnt so hard was it?"

She says kinda and I tell her, "Well, it is hard for most people to accept themselves, to stop judging and comparing theirselves with others. I dont do that, Im happy with myself, thats why I am so confident and why I can name three good things so quickly. Theres a lot more good things about me than just three, so its easy.

Her: "Wow..."

Me: You know whats really hard? To really look into yourself, and figure out what you really want in life, what would make you happy. And not just that, but here is the kicker, to know what you would do with it if you got it. Almost nobody can answer that question...

Her: You are so philosophical *laughs* Its crazy, who thinks like you?

Me: Ha nobody, Im totally special! No just kidding *laughing* But hey, Ive always thought that way, ever since I was a little kid. Here, you wanna try a fun test?

Then I hit her with the cube, and start holding her hand while she does it, and she has some pretty good answers so its really easy to put her up for it. I especially liked that her horse was shiny and brown and has deep brown eyes (perfectly fits my physical description) so when I explain her horse is her lover and I say "and he has deep brown eyes" I put my face right up to hers and stare deeply into her eyes with my big brown eyes and I swear she almost kissed me right there..

So she is enthralled and we are really kinoing eachother so I give her the Jung psychology test, about the color/animal/water/whiteroom, (she picked black as her fav color! I almost panicked until she described it as beautiful, mysterious, and deep), and just for kickers I run myself thru it really quicky, shooting off good DHV answers (this I find is a strong technique to run, actually giving the girl a way to positively relate her answers to you).

Now she is basically mine, we are practically having hand-sex, so I play a bit of catstring on her as well as getting her talking about what she likes to do best for fun and hey presto, she is giving me her number and asking me if I want to go out and shoot some pool with her soon?

Didnt kiss close, she was a bit freaked and overly cautious about my total smoothness, but I convinced her I wasnt any kind of bad player, "I always leave women better off for having met me" as well as getting her gf to comply with me about what a great guy I am, and yeah, she is on for a 2nd night out!

=)

The bitch flaked after all, and badly...

We were smsing a bunch the next day and today, and I get her up to a game of pool at a local bar we both know. She sounds excited (name the time and place) so Im like, Im heading out soonish, I will see you there!

I take a little time, and walk down there, she's not there but im like no biggy, get a beer and start chatting people up...

Two hours go by and I send her two sms's, one joking CF and one more direct "tell me you didnt fall asleep now..."

The bar is totally dead, even tho I try to break into other groups its impossible (one giant group of spanish exchange students, usually they are more open types but not this group..ugh!, and a group of much younger danish kids who I played a game of pool with, but its his bday so they want to just socialize personally), and I end up getting well bored and more than a little ticked off.

So I am walking home, after failing to get any of my friends out (who would have thought so many people work mondays??!!), and bam I get her SMS, like two and a half hours late...

"Nope. Still out? Meeting Louise (her gf) for a drink soon...."

Me: "No. I assumed you flaked on me, which I guess you did, so I left.

Her: "Well thats a shame... Was waiting for Louise. We'll go for a beer anyways "

Me: "Not really. If you can take the time to communicate with Louise, but still not take ten seconds to answer my sms and stand me up, what makes you think I would want to hang out with you still? That's not just flakey, it's rude. I date better people than that."

A half hour goes by..

Her: "Well thats your choice really. Didn't think we had an actual date. (yeah what in the hell have we been talking about all evening? pick the time and place, plz.. sheesh) But im sorry, i didnt mean to stand u up. Sleep well.

Me: Ha ha no that is your actions, your choice. Really, playing me for a fool now, too? And what makes you think I went home??

Then I thought about it a tiny bit (I do hate to be an asshole) and added

Me: I don't mean to be rude, but that's my biggest pet peeve, and number two is people who try to bend or spin things like I dont know better. No offense, but I deserve better than that, by far. Have a fun night, tho.

I dont get it, she was doggy-dinner-bowl eyes on me the night before, and her gf told me she was all gaga the next day about me (I know I made a huge impression), what makes girls flake out like this??? Now I figure, she was just trying to excercise some control, but I am having none of that bullshit. Fuck rude-ass cutdown backstabbing headgames. If you start a relationship like this, it can only end poorly, I already had one heartbreaking soul destroying marriage. If she wants me, she is going to have to make some serious changes to her behavior, as well as a huge amount of sucking my fat cock. Cuz really, I can do a lot better than that.

Heh I got her back... she called me childish, said she wasnt even going out any more if that made me feel better, I called her on it and said "no, you got it a little backwards"...

Long story short, I just explained to her that I have high standards (really I feel they are pretty reasonable) and that Ive been thru one bad marriage already so Ive learned not to take that and as well to be very direct with my emotions and to call bad behavior for what it is, when I see it.

She tries again to twist out of it, making same excuses, and I just line it out for her one by one so she cannot deny it, finishing with "Sorry, but I would never treat my friends that way"

She ends up begging forgiveness, Im sorry im so sorry i was just tired and i didnt even want to go out but i was going to go anyways jsut to see you... which is pretty much what I wanted to hear..

So I play nice guy and forgive her and accept her apology and explain again that Im just really honest about my emotions, but why dont we start over from scratch like it never happened and we can have a fun night out shooting pool, since that is what we both wanted and you know I am all about having a fun time..

She agrees with big smileys and I tell her (congruency here) that I am glad we had this conversation, it made me feel a whole lot better about tonite etc.. and now she is wishing me sweet dreams and all that girl gak and looking forward to seeing me and she promises she will be on her best behavior.

Heh. =) Hope she is fun enough to make it worth it...she seems like it tho, honestly maybe she was just having brain farts or something... I dont know. Im a pretty forgiving guy tho, as long as they stick to their guns and I can trust them. We'll see...

Good luck with her. Seems like push pull from both sides never thought of that before.

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yeah the same thing happened to me with a hb 7 called Helen, gave me all of the signs and even asked me out then..... ditched me for somebody "better"

anybody know why this crap happens?

thanks