I'm "talking" to this woman now, a classmate of mine. We're really into each other, it's obvious. We always flirt, and we enjoy each other's company (when we have the time). The thing is though, she's shy and because of some previous idiot boyfriend, she has a hard time trusting and opening up to guys.

And now, my problem is this: We text/email a lot, and have great conversations, but I ALWAYS seem to be the person who takes the initiative. I'm the person who starts our conversations, I'm the person who tells her we're going out for a drink.

How do I get her to open up more to me? To get that "comfort" feeling. How do I get her to want to take me out for a drink, or want to start a conversation with me, so it's more of a two-way street?

I know this is leaning more towards the relationship side of things rather than the actual pick up, but I was hoping for a little advice anyway.

There is definitely something there, but you feel like there is such a big opportunity if she could just open up a lil bit and give more effort right? There just seems to be a shell that you just can't break quite yet and you wonder how much she really wants to invest in starting a relationship.

yeah this is kindof what i'm going through right now. I posted something along these lines just a few minutes ago titled "a tale of two places."

So if it's an answer you want, I'm not your man. But it is good to know that my problem is more common than I think.

Good luck,
sInsational

Hey man, I just read your post, and it's very similar. Though, I don't wonder about how much she "wants to invest in starting a relationship". I know she's into me. I'm positive. It's more of a trust issue. And that lack of comfort has lead to the fact that I am the person who will always start a conversation, or ask her out for the evening. It makes me feel like a complete AFC when I can't seem to get her wanting to start a conversation with me... or maybe she does but she's too shy, I'm not sure. I need to reverse this.

Good luck to you too,
Pod

Edit: And just to clarify, I'm not new to the game. Just to the forums. I appreciate all advice but please don't tell me I need to work on the basics.

goodluck