hey, gentlemen

I haven't posted much on these forums; i've mostly just been reading and seeing what u guys have had to say. After starting to read the forums every now and then for about 4 months i recently finished reading the mystery method (amazing ). But anyways, i wanted to see what u guys had to say about my situation. Im in a big group of friends in college and recently an hb8 has been throwing me a lot of ioi's. Example, we were at a basketball game and she stood next to me for the game and continuosly touched me, laughed at me, and smiled at me. I answered during a big play by giving her a big hug to see what she thought of it. She continued to throw the ioi's afterwards. The funny thing is that we haven't talked a whole lot. She always smiles and acknowledges me, however, when i talk to our group of friends as a whole. I want to get into direct conversation with her but im not sure how to start. Is she interested in me? Should i go in with the negs/dhv so i can make sure i have genuine interest? This is one of the first girls ive really wanted to game since i read the MM so i want to get off to a good start. Thanks and cheers. Btw, recently for another bball game she asked me to save a seat for her but she came to the game late and didnt end up sitting with me.

If you've noticed the IOI's, then she's probably been into you for a while. Think of it like a tennis match. If you don't start volleying the ball back to her court soon, she's gonna get bored. So let's get going . . .

During a game or a group situation, it's really not a big deal at all to talk about the game itself. "Oh yeah, kick ass . . . blah blah . . . " This is very easy so start here. The "here and now" topics can easily move on to uniforms, other teams, standings, other sports, Olympics, your high school team, etc . . . there's really no end.

From here, it's very easy to transition to your topic:

"Hey, the ______ game is on Friday, how about we get a few beers, make some nachos, and watch it at my place?"

I'm sure you can think of 100's more. If you get an "I dunno", this is a very good thing. Don't make the mistake of getting all messed up about it. In this case, she might make some sort of dumb excuse. You just go, "Oh . . . alright, next time . . . " But you don't ask her again now. You wait. And keep hanging out with her like nothing ever happened. You want her sitting at home thinking, "Shoot, I'm sooooo stupid! Why did I say that??"

Then the next time you ask, she'll go, "OK".

Just keep pressing these buttons. Stay away from negs. You throw negs at cold fishes who don't want to volley with you in the first place. Your game with this one has already begun.

Most importantly, get the "does she want to hang out with me?" idea out of your head.

Of COURSE she would want to hang out with you! You are smart, into the same things (at least the sport), good lookin, she has already thrown IOIs your way. She wants to hang out with you.

Go into it with that attitude and she'll be putty in your hands. Just don't overcompensate. Actually believe it.

Everything said above is true as well. Ask her to join you for a game, and if she is wishy washy, don't make a big deal. She'll want it even more.

hahahah nice this all sounds very good and reassuring...so i think ill stay away from the negs and stuff and try to move into comfort and the rest of that phase...awesome thanks a lot guys