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I DO like your idea about making the approach seem like it was her idea. Any practical applications of that?
How about making it so that the approach IS her idea? I prefer women to approach me (and buy me drinks) than the other way around. It just makes me feel sexier, plus you get the added assurance that you are now gaming a girl who is definitely attracted to you at some basic level, instead of working uphill to win her over.
To do this you will need, in order of least important to most important:
1. To peacock, and peacock well. Seriously, dress crazy different and do it with flare! Don't forget to keep style in mind tho (try to make it look good), and remember you gotta LOVE your clothes (see #3). I like to wear suspenders, old 20's hats (dammit I actually started a trend here in Copenhagen and now all the shops are selling these fucking hats, might have to retire mine, sniff!), half a tuxedo, feather boas (thanks mystery!), women's necklaces as long as they look good on me, plus I have a smiley face tattoo (something Ive had for decades), a zorro costume and a box of other wierd costumes I play with from time to time. If you are new to this, then start small, but make sure you have something about your appearance that makes you stand out from the crowd.
2. Social Proof. Peacocking just helps attract the attention. Now you need to cement it. So make sure the doormen and barcrew know and love you. Make sure your friends hold you on high for all to see. Bring some girls along and let them be seen on your arms. Dont be afraid to make friends with everyone and everybody in the bar, and be seen doing it. This is verbatim from MM, but it works! So do it.
3. A massively positive and confident attitude. A huge smile. You cannot pull peacocking like that off without being damn sure of yourself... anything less and you will look like an uncomfortable ass in some wierd clothes who wishes he were anywhere else. And you wont gain the social proof of strangers either without a strong, outgoing personality. But once you have it all together, you WILL be the life of the party, so now you can feel free to dance up any girl you see and try some routines or just whatever comes off the top of your head.
If you do all of that, I guarantee you girls will approach you. They will want to ask about your funny hat, or laugh at your crazy style, or will dance nearer to you on the floor with that look in their eye, or they will just flat out approach you and say "omg who are you? you are so crazy!!!" All you have to do is not get so drunk that you can't come up with a quick and snappy response.
Ok, so its easier said than done, but try it out bit by bit. In my humble opinion, its far better learning innergame and social projection than it is to memorize and internalize tedious pick-up routines which probably do not come naturally to you in the first place, especially if they are not true. (Does your friend John
really have a problem with a gf who wants him to wear panties and a dress, do you
really want to know if the girl likes cats or dogs better? Come on...)
EDIT: You can do this without peacocking at all, just wearing boring clothes, but you have to have the social projection down pat. And peacocking just helps alot. =)