I think youve hit the nail on the head with the confidence.
I reckon the main issue with it however, is escalation. Sure some of the girls will let you do that shit. But if she has a BF? Im not saying you cant hit it if she has a BF - Im saying that the chances are she wont be willing to cheat on him if she only knows you as the guy rubbing on her legs.
I think you should isolate - just before the step where you make your move. The problem with these girls is that they may display this flirtatious behaviour - but it doesnt mean that they are willing to go through with it. She is just influenced by the group mentality. Ive told you my views on it through chat - ill add my own routine -

I have this LED display necklace thing - It bleeps light messages brightly. I programme it to bleep HI5!!!*

Im walking slash dancing on the floor, and I select i target. I then go into the set and go - WOOOOO!!! (lol), holding up my hand for a HI5. They always slap it, but some leave it there for a bit longer, almost like a stroke. She is showing compliance just by going through with the HI5, never mind stroking it, so I catch her hand, and spin her round the other side of me. I then let go and throw her hand away, and wipe my hand on my leg cheekily as if hers was dirty. The negging is sorted, She is isolated from her friends, and I have control. Now I go up to step three of yours, and then pull on her hand to the bar so i can get some comfort - this way i am not a victim of buyers remorse. Ill take her outside for a smoke, exchange numbers and its sweet. I can go back inside and escalate or bring her whole group outside and get the social hook point.

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I agree with sharkoff on this one, trouble is countless times ive got to stage 3 when i first started clubbing and kept it at that point. One time i remember was this summer, she was dragging me to the smoking area of a local club (i dont smoke) to talk, all very well and good, but i did not escalte despite the IOI's after about an hour she walked off. (im guessing due to the lack of reciprocation after stage 3 on my part). I'm hopefully out this friday, so i'll give all these stages a go, as you said, it's one night out of many!

Serval.

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You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.

Mmm good shit Serval, tell me how it went my friend All about the confidence baby Gonna add a new section to the thread very soon so keep your eyes on this baby some great new info coming in!!

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Sorry for not updating it guys, the guy who was gonna add the new info didn't come through, we should be getting some soon though keep checking back!

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