| Cinnamon was right, but missed one key thing. Something Ive noticed isnt in these forums (i will try to fix that in time) is personality roles. They have been touched on but not really fully explained
She's acting dominate, but is generally a submissive type person. Because of her looks, she often finds that she needs to be the one that engages, that pursues, but she needs to still be a "lady". How is this apparent? Cause she is playing coy (as cin said).
She is nervous, not sure of herself, and, in the end, is let down by you. She acted dominate towards you, and you were (in her eyes) supposed take control. How do you do this? Simple, seemingly meaningless tasks. Tell her to pass the remote (domain ownership, as in the room. you control the entertainment, the flow, the energy, and the focus). Tell her to give you more pillows then her (if there are 3, you need 2, 4, you need 3). This allows her to want more, and you are her source.
She more then likely was thrown off cause she thinks (because men reinforce it) that she is hot and everyone wants to simply fuck her. She wanted you, but you werent drooling over her. Thats why she started doing wierd things like cleaning or letting the dog in. Those actions arent typical even for people who have company over that they dont like. What it does show is higher energy, lack of confidence, and a submissive state of mind (shes afraid to confront you with what she wants). Take that energy, and work her out. She was primed, you just didnt ignite the fuse. Thus, no explosions.
My advice: find out when she is free. Tell her you are going to such and such place (something where you have plenty of face to face, or, intellectually intimate (not physically intimate) like taking pictures at a park, hike, or whatever you know she likes.) Dont ever ask her what she wants to do, ask her out, ask her for anything. Worst case: she denies it and shit tests you. Best case, she starts to succumb to your dominance and if you play it right you have what ever you want from her at any time.
One thing that is extremely important, never just TELL her to do something. Tell her in the form of a request. It should always be formed in HER giving YOU something. HER coming to YOU (even if you are picking her up, "OK, cool. We should go to the park and test out my new camera. Ill pick you up at 4?") Dont do it in a rude way. Use your linguistic skills and NLP (Visual, Kinestetic, and Audio words, and make sure you use her language) to get it.
In short, she was Dominant to you, but is at heart submissive. Now, she did all the work to get you IN HER ROOM, you need to seal the deal.
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