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PostPosted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 5:43 pm 
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My life has been going quite well recently, I have gone from not having enough money to eat to being quite wealthy. However, the years of being damn broke makes me nervous of having money and trying to hide it from women (to avoid it having any sway on how much they like me).
It's not like I am ashamed of it but I just don't want it to ever become something I rely on or use to get women. For example I mentioned to a girl I have known for ages who has a bf that I have bought a house and she suddenly starting chucking IOIs at me, kinda made me think how easy it would be to misuse it.

So any advice guys?

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Hey, congrats on turning things around man! I remember just a few months ago, you were putting up some posts that suggested you were in some seriously dire straits. Anyhow, I had a pretty similar "rags-to-riches" experience coming out of university, and I think I've done a good job over the years of being humble about my relative wealth and success.

It's a fine balance, but while you don't want to brag about it or exploit it (that's only likely to attract the wrong women), you certainly don't want to hide it either. You wouldn't want to hide the fact you were good looking or had a really cool talent, so why would you want to conceal the fact that you were financially successful? As with any DHV, you just want to present yourself in the best light while remaining modest. Don't be shy about talking about the cool things you may have done or bought, but focus on the value those things have brought to your life and why/how they can relate to your target, and don't dwell on how much they cost.

Another thing I like to do to temper any talk of money is to use some anecdotes of how damn poor I was back in the day. Any envy or animosity people may have towards my "easy" life tends to get pushed aside when I recount how I spent a week living off of bread and pepper, or how many times I took a big fall while walking around my apartment in the dark because the power got shut off. Remember, this is a major life achievement, and you've gained a lot more than just wealth from it. You've shown you can overcome tough times and persevere. Personally, I've found that to be a DHV story that trumps any superficial DHV story you can tell about what you've bought.

Anyhow, I hope this helps a little, and good luck!


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 8:46 pm 
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"When I was your age, I didn't have money... I had to draw the presidents on the paper myself"

Be careful if you're going for making it a DHV, so that it doesn't come off as disqualifying to whatever troubles the HB might be going through at the moment. You know, so that you don't go "When I was younger...." etc. after she has made a statement about how she has trouble getting enough together for something she wants/needs. That can be seen as arrogance. ;)

It could be better for comfort building, I think.
Hell, it can even make a good thing to admit as an insecurity.
After reaching Comfort zone, that is.

Letting her know that you haven't always had it easy with money, and you're therefore careful now about letting people know, and then you can go into the example about how that girl you knew suddenly got interested when she found out you now had money and so on.

But hey; Good going.
"I'm very proud of you"... (C&F :P)
Anyway that's my take on the situation. ;)
hope it helps.


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 10:10 pm 
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thanks for the good advice and yeah I suppose its a good thing that I lived off nothing for weeks, I can kinda appreciate what I have more. I think it may be a case of don't mention it unless they ask :)

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