I'm tall (6'5) and have trouble when in clubs with music. Say i chat to a girl who is 5'5 then quite often even with only medium level music I can't hear what she says.

What should I do, with my body language / posture?

Leaning over is too threatening, crouching or bending knees will look odd? How do I get a girl to speak up, or let her know that I can't hear and get her happy with me getting closer?

i think there is no way around you need to crouch a bit to talk to her ear...if you smile a lot you won't look treathening.

Here is a technique I learned from teaching English as a second language.

Put your hand to your ear to signal that you can't hear, but actually lean back instead of pecking downward. Its a great way to signal them to be louder.

I usually sit on a bar stool or lean back against something to even on the height a little. Or if the music is really loud, I signal I can't hear, point to my ear and lean my head in over her shoulder so she can talk in my ear and I can talk in hers. It's a little awkward and I only use do it for short sentences, but it works and it makes it easier to kiss them later (since your faces were already so close). You're right though it is very difficult being tall, but hey at least it beats being short.

hey ninjatoon im 6'7 and have found it easy just to lean down a bit so i can hear sometimes if im at a friends house or somewhere a little more private then a bar or club ile make a little neg and say "here let me get to your level" and stand on my knees then start talking I uselly get a bit of a laugh.

Do what kalel said....Sit on a bar stool or lean back onto a piller/wall etc
Not only does it give of a non needy non threatining chilled out body language vibe it will decrease your height by a few inches .

If you sit ona bar stool chances are you will still be taller than her but pull her inbetween your legs when talking so shes closer and if you cant hear what she says DONT lean in to her ear. Point to your ear with a confused look on your face and she will lean in to you and start talking. If she cant hear what your saying chances are she will lean in and say "What did you say?" or sumat like that if this happens motion her with your finger to lean in then repeat what you said

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