the first phone call is a tough one, most guys put in a lot of effort trying to think of 100s of interesting things to say. then when we call her, shes driving the car and cant speak, and you need to call her back and it all goes to shit and you loose your HV.


I developed this one a few months back and had loads of fun using it. works best on girls with confidence and personality.


before you make the opening call, send this text(SMS) message to her phone.

"hello you lovely little thing. im about to give you a call, are you sitting somewhere quiet, feeling flirty, sexy and fun and with at least 3 interesting things to tell me".

the replies i've had
1. try me.
2. 3 wow, maybe
3. of course
4. call me in 30 mins, i'll be home alone then

then, when you call just say.
"so......... whats the first interesting this you've got for me (make sure you're smiling/laughing when you say it.... DONT say hello or wait)"

when she starts telling you, wait a bit and then say "whats the second..."

and then ".... whats the third....... oh thats a bit better"....

then fly on ya own.

good luck boys...

Alright there Belondon, nice post. Not many posts and your already giving out some pretty cool advice, props.

I was actually wondering what to expect with this - I had it down as one of those, "i've read the game, i'm now an expert and have a bizarre opener that won't work" before I clicked it. But reading it, I am impressed.

I don't think its one of those things that should be scripted, but if the people who use it tweak the way things work, it could be very helpful.

The text especially is a must remember! I always do something similar, but I must say thats a very good idea. Not only do you check a) she's ok to talk on the phone, b) but you've already planted in her mind that your phone call is going to be a fun experience. Its not out of the blue and awkward, she is primed and ready for a fun chat.

I don't even think you have to ask about the interesting things - unless your REALLY stuck what to say. If I was using this method, I'd probably jokingly ask about the first interesting thing - talk about it, and then jokingly say its not even interesting - and just carry on a conversation...not revisiting the interesting.

There my thoughts, but good post, I like it.

I think thats a tip everyone should take in a way; before you call, always send a text that not only checks she's around...but also makes you seem a fun and interesting conversationalist before you've already called.

Nice.

Riot!

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Using situational openers?
Throwing yourself in?
Able to flow conversationally from every good or bad comment they make?
That's the way its done.
The only game is natural game.

Riot,


appreciate the feedback.

cheers.

Yeh props for the calling technique!

Very funny!

This is also the reason why you act not so cool. I would say that you should instead relax and be yourself. This is much more attractive. I don't think what to say to impress as it's not what you say but about being naturally you. Girls are attracted to attractive men in the same way that men are naturally attracted to attractive girls (hotties).

Yes, but the point of the post is for people that due to nervousness cannot relax and be themselves.

I only picked out the text tip as a good thing alot of people should use. A flirty text to say your going to call, surely thats better than just ringing unannounced? You don't want her to be annoyed by you calling, especially at the beginning...because that definately has some effect on the attraction she has for you.

Riot.

_________________
Using situational openers?
Throwing yourself in?
Able to flow conversationally from every good or bad comment they make?
That's the way its done.
The only game is natural game.

good discussion boys

the idea came from the time i called a girl, who was on a tram and couldn't hear or talk "openly". . . I lost a lot of points when she said to me, "i cant hear you, can you call me back in an hour".... it made me look like i was going to sit around. From her point of view it was a totally ok thing to say, but it took the driver from me and gave it to hear.

so i sent her a text, "right im going to call you now, are you somewhere quiet and are you ready to be funny, flirty and interesting."

that gave me back points as now I seemed a little put out by her, but in a fun way.

i then decided to use it all the time.

its better than ringing, knowing there will be a missed call on her phone if she's busy.

amen to that.

_________________
Using situational openers?
Throwing yourself in?
Able to flow conversationally from every good or bad comment they make?
That's the way its done.
The only game is natural game.

Yeh, that flirty approach works with me

Of course it does its nice, flirty and respectful... whats not to like.

thanks for the feedback all the same

Really like the method and it solves something I've had and is a good way to build comfort. Before you call you can't always tell how comfortable the call will be. Generally depends on her confidence for you to play against. If it 'gels' then it doesn't matter if you haven't prepared anything to say.

I like Riot's neg as well, tell her the first thing she says is not interesting so she fails. Then just continue chatting about whatever. Could even use it to set up the day 2. Okay maybe I didn't give you enough time to be creative... I'm going x later, come along if you've got something good this time.

Yeah I like what you did there, what a partnership we've developed Walt haha.

Could say, tell you what I'm going x later - if you need some more time to think up interesting things, you got till then to think of something and then come along or something similar.

Wow, between us all we've no so much got a method as more of a total phone call game plan! Win! lol

_________________
Using situational openers?
Throwing yourself in?
Able to flow conversationally from every good or bad comment they make?
That's the way its done.
The only game is natural game.

careful boys don't go stealing credit . . . putting icing on a perfectly prepared cake doesn't take too much work. . . dont forget the baker

cheers

Just field tested the msg. Slight variation.

Didn't call her little, or sexy. But the desired effect was there. She thought I was in a good mood and it made her laugh.

So props to belondon.

First of all props to belondon for the technique.

I've been encountering quite a few woman blurring of late. Blurring is when they seem like they are interested in a guy calling them but then they don't respond/answer their phone/show the same interest. It was in The Game for anyone curious as to where I got the term from.

So, getting to the point, I have 2 girls whose number I've got in the past week. I tried a SMS before calling, but got no response. I called one of them, but I was getting a random message in a foreign langauge (I'm in Hong Kong BTW which explains the language thing).

I think I'll try this technique and report back with the next number I get. I like the idea of sending the SMS as in Hong Kong, people are very busy and always on the go, if you call them up and they are on the MTR (underground train), it's really noisy, if they're out on the street, eating, at work, it may not be a good time for them to speak. So at least the SMS allows them the chance to say when they'll be ready to chat and they can think of things to say.

I find that a lot of women here don't know what to say and I have to do a lot of leading which is fine and I'm comfortable with, but I want to make the conversation like 60/40. I don't think a girl wants to hear a guy just blabbering on and on, they like us to show an interest in their life and to get them talking. Problem for me is the langauge barrier here.