Women fall into three basic categories
1. Girls you wouldn't sleep with cause she’s fat, ugly, or otherwise undesirable.
2. Girls you are only interested in a short term relationship with, like a booty call.
3. Girls you'd like long term relationships with. These are our future girlfriends and wives.

This article is about the last two types of girls.

Usually, when a guy meets short term girl, his goal is get sex. With this kind of girl he doesn't let emotion get in his way. He calls her up, and he asks her out. He sets his game plan up to get her into bed. He takes control of the situation. He leads the situation to sex. He's not afraid to take chances. He's not overly concerned with what she thinks about him. He’s not afraid of losing her. This makes him even more attractive to her, and it greatly increases his chances of having sex.

Conversly, and we've all been here guys: when a guy meets a girl and likes her alot, he becomes a different person. His goal is no longer sex. His goal is now to try and show what a nice guy he is and why he'd make such a perfect boyfriend. For some reason, he becomes a wuss. This guy is afraid he might do or say something that might cause him to lose her. This guy holds off on trying to have sex with her because he's afraid to screw things up. Since he's acting like a wuss, she's less attracted to him and chances for sex goes down.

Why is this? Well, girls are attracted to men who don't need their approval. They like a man who takes control of the situation, and aren't afraid to get physical. For some reason, when men start liking a girl, they start acting like wusses. Women don't like wusses. Wusses don't take control of the situation. Wusses are afraid to get physical because they're afraid the girl might reject them.

This type of behavior works against the guys chances.

So if you have genuine feelings for a women, what should you do? Your immediate goal isn't to try and get her to be your girlfriend. Your goal should be to sleep with girl just like you would a short term girl.

Think about it, how many short term girls have you screwed a few times, and shortly afterward she tries to become your girlfriend? Why? Because she's much more invested in the relationship. It's much easier for a girl to consider you a boyfriend if your already having sex with her. Conversly, she's less likely to jump into a commited relationship if you've only made out, or worse, if you've never gotten physical with her.

So fellas, if you have genuine feelings for a girl, try and get physical as fast as reasonally possible. When you get physical, a woman invests a lot more of herself into you. This makes her much more likely to be want to be your girlfriend.

I've had these same thoughts.

Its ironic that the qualities that men typically display to women they're either not interested in, or only have short term interest in, happen to be the same qualities that are needed to get women in general.

Fairly recently there was a girl I really wanted a relationship with, but ultimately failed with. It was weird that during that period in time I received a lot of female validation from girls I really didn't give a shit about.

And here is the core of the lesson: The best way to get a specific woman is to learn how to get women in general.