hi I’m Anton just found this message board and thought i would post because i need advice bad I’m really shy and usually don’t talk with many girls and feel it’s time to get out there and do something about it.

Anyways there’s a girl at a gym i like i have seen her there a few times and we made eye contact a few times now i was wondering if this would be a good approach

I’ll walk up to her

Me - hi i noticed you come here often and i thought i would introduce myself im Anton (shake hands)
HB - my name is...

Then maybe give her a compliment about w/e machine she using to exercise

Me- wow your using xx pounds that’s pretty strong no wonder u got such nice shoulders/back/legs(w/e body part she hitting)

Then ask if she wants to work out together sometimes

Do you guys think it’s an ok opener or any tips how to improve this?

slow down pal, take ur time here, if its the same girl that you want your gunna have to practice on a few others. avoid complimenting her, insulting her a little bit and teasing her might be abit better. find another girl in the gym. first let suggest 2 books to read:

the game by neil strauss, everyone on this board will have read this book i think

and how to get the woman of your desires into bed by ross jeffries,

once you have read them and practiced talkin to girls then you will be ready, if your shy she will sense this and feel that your weak, you need to walk over there smile on face talkin to a few people in the process (social proof) and try sayin:

HB: wow your lifting....pounds, one day you may be strong enough to lift real weights!

try something along those lines, be cocky funny and neg her a few times. then go to the routines section of this bored, pick one of the routines, modify it to suit you and do that.

i suggest you dont use a machine next to her or you will feel compelled to show off and prove your better, its a man thing we all do it. and if she can out run you it never looks good. i work in a ladies gym in manchester and i tease the women none stop.

dont forget to give her a false time constraint, the last thing she wants when she is working out is some guy stood talkin to her, say:

"im leaving in a few minutes but i just wondered when you were guna start lifting some real weights?" or something along those lines

goodluck man!

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hmm tnx for the info, i like that line good stuff i need to start thinking up my own negatives , maybe ill just say hi when i walk by for now and like you said practice on other Hbs that are semi attractive to me so i can get my game down

hey dude, something quick, i tend to lock eyes big smile and just say whats, then i will not look at her untill i see her the next time! though when im at the gym i tend not to talk to anyone and keep to myself, i live on long island and you tend to bump into people alot, so what i do is let them discover me threw my social value, being that im out alot it tends to be high, so people will come up to me. Thats just another persective.

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You could ask her if you can work in with her. People do this all the time so it doesnt reveal your interest. From there you can ask her opinion on something, like your thinking of getting a dog, what kind of dog do you think is best, a pit bull, a rot wieller or a lab. Then she'll answer and you can ask what she likes about that dog. Maybe neg her response by negging the dog she chose saying its too little or it barks too much. Then say oh I like pit bulls cause there loyal and protective or some good atributes that woman would like. Maybe tell her an interesting story of someone you saw or something interesting that happened. Try to relay the emotions you felt and not just the facts when you tell a story so its more interesting. Just be carefull with negs not to overdue it. I got into some trouble yesturday doing that. The best ones are the ones that are almost like compliments but not quite like nice shoes, they must be popular cause I just saw 2 girls outside with the same ones or my grandma just got some for her birthday and says there great. To walk up to a stranger and say, hey when are you gonna put on some reall weights could be insulting espesially with bad deliery which you will probably have since you said you dont talk to a lot of girls.

Hey Anton, welcome to the community. Listen to Kardinal, read those books. At least read The Game. That is almost the base for many guys getting into picking up and has been a staple of the community, though it definately isn't needed as long as you are willing to learn. I also recommend the Mystery Method.

It seems like you are a nice guy and choose to go with compliments and such... these won't work on the most beautiful of the beautiful. Read around the forums and the recommended books and you will see a drastic change in yourself and the way women react to you.

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Hey Anton, i apologize if im sounding repetitive, i just read your post.
the way your coming off is an average chum.
everyone who dosent know how to talk to girls starts out like that, with that approach.
depending on her looks and i noticed you mentioned an HB,
i would have started saying "omg your using xx weight? who you trying to impress? *smile)
then "q n a" her and build your rep up (dhv) and lower hers (dlh)
bait her with a question (depending how far you have gotten into a2/a3)

Alpha-hey, weird question, what nationality are you?
HB- romanian
Alpha- no way! are you for real?
HB- haha yea whyyy?
Alpha- yea i kinda thought sooo, well i had the biggest crush on this girl..in high school and she was totally Romanian... we were about to go out but she moved to toronto for university.
omg your Romanian and your cute too, i cant even talk to you now.

the rest you just sit back and let her do the work..that is if she is in a3 with you.
if she says "none of your buisness" reply "you know what, i was just being polite, im not really that interested >=D
hope this helps kick you off bro. be in the mind stat as you "bratty older brother"
now go make some girls smile

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Excellent info guys, i actually did read a good amount about approaching with negative comments but I’m just nervous about using them, lack of balls lol . I keep saying im going to approach girls but never do i need to get over the fear of being rejected. So ill try my best to improve my game and actually approach girls. tnx for all your help hopefully ill post a successful approach soon

Remember- in the game, nice guys never finish first... or with HB10s. Haha- not completely true, but in game settings, for the most part, it is.

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